(Closed) Does anyone else feel shy about everyone looking at them at the ceremony?

posted 12 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am super nervous about it, I am not big on attention and I am not a real public lovey dovey affectionate person so the whole wedding things scares me and makes me nervous. Especially the reception, like the first dance.

Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

As nervous as I am about the whole thing (I’m not one to be the center of attention at all…) my poor Fiance is even more nervous about it! He is more of the ‘loner’ type (his word, not mine.) and doesn’t like crowds at all. He’s especially nervous about the first dance… where as I’m just worried about the ceremony bit (a little too much like public speaking… which I hate.) I mean, we’re only having ~50 people if you include the wedding party and the officant and photographer… but still!

Post # 18
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Nerves are always expected and totally normal!!  I will have to say I was nervous thinking about the big day, but once it came, I had a little champagne and kept my eyes on my hubby and everyone else just seemed to fade away.  Good luck to all of you brides and I’m sure you will all look and feel amazing standing up there in front of all those people! 🙂

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

with the chance of sounding super selfish…. Im so excited for all the attention to be on my fiance and i …. we deserve it with all that we ahve been through

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper

Oh gosh. The thought of this makes me excited and nervous/shy all at the same time!

Although, we are doing our photos before the ceremony, so I expect that having so much attention on us for photos will calm my nerves a bit. Or at least I hope so!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OMG, this has been my biggest fear, my first entrance when everyone is looking at me. I just hope to GOD that i don’t freeze up and make a fool of my self.  My dad is walking me also but he’s a clown and just adds to my fear that he may do something nuts, while i doubt that he really would, but…..

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

i was terrified! i get major anxiety about being in front of people. because of that we only had 30 people at the ceremony, but i still didn’t want ONE person (other than my husband) looking at me. i had both my parents walk me down the aisle because it’s jewish tradition, but that also made me feel more secure because they blocked me from everyone’s view.

after all of that worrying, during the ceremony i didn’t notice anything but my husband and rabbi. literally, i had no clue what was going on around me. before i went down the aisle i made a mental note to look at the ceremony flowers b/c i wanted to see how they turned out. for all i knew they didn’t exist until i saw the pictures. my husband and i both didn’t notice our photographer and worried that he wasn’t even at the ceremony, until we saw him in a picture that our friend took. my friends told me that there were cars that were blasting music during the ceremony, which again i didn’t know happened until i saw our video. i didn’t see our guests, i didn’t have a clue what was going on around me. and that’s what i wanted.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

I thought I would be but I was surprisingly calm and okay with it. We had about 100 guests though, so that probably made it easier than 300+. I really felt like it was just the two of us standing up there. There will be so many things going through your head that I bet, “there are lots of people here” won’t be one of the first.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

I was incredibly nervous about this.  Especially since I’m usually a fairly blunt, non-crier type of girl.  But honestly, it was a surreal experience and most of the time was just completley focused on my husband and whoa we’re really doing this.  Yeah, I was kinda embarrassed that I cried but whatever, it was my wedding day.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You are definitely not alone. I am normally a shy person and when I feel just a tad bit embarrassed, my cheeks get all red. I am not used to the attention and rather have it somewhere else but the wedding is all about you and your Fiance so all eyes are on you. Sso what I did to overcome this was that I kept my eyes on my Fiance when I was walking down the aisle even while my guests were taking pictures of me walking the aisle.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i am a singer songwriter and hve performed many times alone with lots of people watching.

but walking down the aisle seems daunting to me as well. i think i enjoy the attention when im actually doing something that requires skill.

walking does not require skill. (although some might say so since im wearing a floor length gown, 5 inch heels, and walking on flagstone without looking down or falling haha.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

OMG Yes! Mostly about saying the vows and getting emotional in front of people! I’m sure it will be fine, but if I think about it too much it makes me nervous!

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m really nervous about saying our vows and then our first dance… My Fiance doesn’t understand at all; he’s a meteorologist and is on the radio and on television every day, he loves having all eyes on him! I get shy even in front of my family.

Luckily, my friends have all offered to carry flasks or to give me valium and I fully intend on taking them up on their offers LOL

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2007 - Organic farm an hour from San Francisco

I’m super duper shy.  I basically ran down the aisle.  No really, fastest bride ever.  When I see my pictures on weddingbee (or used as an example elsewhere) I get really embarrassed.  Like I said, I ran down the aisle and our ceremony was no more than 10 minutes… minimal staring time.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m the same way!!! People have suggested to just look straight and focus on the groom, for aa good pic. I most likely will look at the groom and then down at the ground because of embaressment. LOL!!

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