(Closed) Does anyone else feel shy about everyone looking at them at the ceremony?

posted 12 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I was really nervous about this too. I’d like to say that once I saw my husband, the nervousness melted away, but it didn’t, not completely. It helped, but until we got to the part where we were saying our vows to each other I was nervous, and I REALLY didn’t like kissing in front of everyone. When I walked up the aisle with my dad and back down with my hsband, I was bobbing my head to smile at and acknowledge everyone there, and in the video I look like a frikkin bobblehead. Ugh.

It wasn’t as bad as I was expecting, and seeing my husband and concentrating on him helped, but I’m not gonna lie. It wasn’t fun.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so nervous about it! Also, Fiance wants to sit up on this elevated platform thing to eat, and that scares the crap out me too!

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh yeah! 

My photographer took pre-wedding photos and kept showing me- all I could say was, “that can’t be me”.  The guests kept saying that I was glowing, I told them it was because I finally was wearing makeup. 

It was a totally awesome day, don’t worry about being shy- you will be thinking about someone else seeing you more than the other people! 

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was very nervous about this beforehand.  But once I was there, I was fine!  As soon as I saw the hubs, I just focused on him.  He was crying, and it was too cute, which made me giggle.  Oops!  ๐Ÿ™‚

It will be easier than you anticipate.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Uh, yes. Very. Being a painfully self conscious klutz can lead to paranoia. I’m excruciatingly shy at the best of times, an antisocial shut at the worst of timesLaughing

my Fiance is the same way; public speaking & being the center of attention is definitely not our thing, so there are definitely some jitters.

At the same time though, I’ll probably be too busy the day of to even notice, much.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m SOOOO scared!! I get the worst stage frieght. I seriously want to elope when I think about the walking part… but I do want all my friends there so I wouldn’t elope. I’m terrified I won’t be able to walk, let alone dance down the isle. My face is going to get red & I’m going to look scared & nervous & shaky & not be able to make eye contact with anyone. I’ll try to not look at ANYONE except my groom. Ha I make it sound so dreadful…

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Me! Im so so so shy and im glad my mom is walking me down.  I guess you have to just try to zone everyone out and pretend its just you and Fiance.  I was baptised last week and am so glad I did it because I actually had to walk down the aisle twice one for the rehearsal for the baptism then again on the actual baptism day.  Im going to go back and walk down it a couple more times, I totally recommend doing this for practice. My church aisle is extremely long too! 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I was terrified about this until I was walking down the aisle.  I was so overcome with emotion that I teared up a lot during the walk, but all I noticed was my husband waiting for me a the end.  During the ceremony, I thought I’d be nervous, but I felt really comfortable because I realized that the entire crowd was made up of people that loved us and were so happy for us, that all those fears just melted away.  There is a tremendous feeling of love when you’re up there that I can’t describe, but it’s amazing.  Don’t be worried for a second–it’s one of the most special moments in your life.  Savor every moment ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Don’t stress at all!! You’ll feel a little butterfly-y before you walk, but then you forget and just look at your SO…nothing better. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 40
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Looking for stories of terrified brides who survived.  My mother picked my dress, she created the longest aisle ever, and i am her only child and can’t bear to break her heart by not giving her a wedding, but i am someone who will literally run all the way home from a party and spend the next two days hiding in my closet, and my friends don’t even bat an eye anymore.  People once sang happy birthday to me and i dove under the table.  We are eliminating first dance, bouquet toss, cake cutting… but i can’t get out of the walking.  People have bought their plane tickets already; i am an idiot to have thought i could do this; please tell me you are as nuts as me and that it was okay.

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

YES!!! I’M SO awkward when receiving compliments… Everytime someone says it’s “Your Wedding” I always think – UGH- it’s a wedding celebration for everyone there..not just about me and the groom. Plus- I’m super emotional sooo everyones going to watch me cry down the isle…haha

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh gosh, my Fiance and I are most definitely nervous about it. We’re both pretty quiet people that keep to ourselves, and neither of us like having a lot of attention on us. I’m even more nervous because I know for sure that I’m going to cry during the ceremony, and everyone will be watching! We want to take as much pain and awkwardness out of all this attention as possible, so we’ll be cutting out things like first dance, cake cutting, and making the ceremony as short as possible!

But from what I’ve heard, you don’t even notice anyone except your guy when you’re walking down the aisle. Let’s see if that’s true! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee

Everyone feels nervous about that, some more than others. You are definitely not alone.

Post # 44
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Okay, i survived the walk down the aisle.  Actually the reception setup was such a clusterfuck that the walk down the aisle was nothing; it was like, Get this ceremony over with, i got work to do!  I am still freaking out about the reception and convinced that everyone had a terrible time and that they all hate me, but the aisle part went fine.

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes I am terrified as well.  I will just focus on my hubby and hope that I will forget everyone is there!!

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