(Closed) Does anyone else feels this resentment?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you feel resentful towards your SO for making you wait?
    Yes : (15 votes)
    31 %
    No : (14 votes)
    29 %
    Sometimes : (19 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    304 posts
    Helper bee

    i don’t think waiting is going to get any easier until i’m NOT waiting any more… the worse part is when we were having yet anther what are you waiting for discussion the other night, he said he’s never had a girl compromise for him and meet him halfway, that he was already planning on proposing sooner than he planned for me and my happiness, and that he wanted me to compromise and be a little patient for him. thanx for the guilt trip buddy. so of course i had to say ok i’ll wait patiently. but inside, i am not waiting patiently. i don’t understand =-( he has no tangeable viable reason for waiting. he has plenty of money, he knows he wants to marry me… WHAT is the hold up? “i want it to be perfect. let me make it perfect and surprise you” he says. but at what price?! waiting hurts no matter how i try to make myself feel better and four and half more months of waiting sound like eternity to me….. UGH

    Post # 4
    Member
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Waiting sucks no matter what.  Even when you know he has the ring hidden away, waiting is terrible!!!!

    Post # 5
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m 100% waiting for a proposal but I feel like I can honestly say I don’t resent him for not asking yet. I know my SO loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me but he isn’t the type to rush into anything. When he is ready to get married he’ll propose and until then I just try to show him every day that I love him and how good of a wife I would be πŸ˜‰

    Post # 7
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    429 posts
    Helper bee

    yea waiting suck big time ! but just like the other gals said, show him how great you are and how greater youd be as a house wife .  i guess when there ready its time ? yea i think so because we wouldent want to force them do we? 

     

    im waiting as well , jus hang in there hopfully it will happen soon for both of us and all the best comes out of it.. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    429 posts
    Helper bee

    yea waiting suck big time ! but just like the other gals said, show him how great you are and how greater youd be as a house wife .  i guess when there ready its time ? yea i think so because we wouldent want to force them do we? 

     

    im waiting as well , jus hang in there hopfully it will happen soon for both of us and all the best comes out of it.. 

    Post # 9
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    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada β™₯ EDD- April 2016

    I don’t really feel angry, I just wish I had control of the situation. When I start to get upset that it’s taking so long I think about his wishes. It’s not just my proposal it’s his proposal too, and he’s had this great idea for about a year now and it’s the only way he pictures proposing. Although it’s hard on me, I would be so angry at myself if I ruin his dream proposal by having him rush everything. He wants to do it a certain way, not just for me but for him, and I have to respect that (:

    Waiting is really hard, but it gets easier when I think about how exciting the proposal will be for him (:

    Post # 10
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    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Can you take a trip? When I was waiting for my husband to propose, I did get a little resentful, but I went on a trip for school to Spain. We were still together. He said he realized how much he needed me in his life (we still talked everyday on the phone), and he did propose within two weeks of me coming home. Can you maybe take some sort of vacation in the next few months? Just for like 2 weeks? Its a little drastic, and probably undoable for a lot of people, but it does seem to light the fire under their butts if they are really ready.

    Post # 11
    Member
    232 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t resent him one bit.

    Maybe some of that has to do with how long we have been together (8 mo) or how long I’ve been waiting (3 mo).  But I know that my man wants to be with me for the rest of our lives.  I have a timeline.  I know that he is working on saving up money for a ring while also planning an amazing proposal.  There isn’t a single part of me that wants him to propose earlier just because I want it.

    Post # 12
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t resent him, but only because our situation is what it is.  We’re LDR, so even if I got engaged tomorrow, I would be one of those girls that would have to say goodbye again when the weekend ended and he/I had to go back home. 

    School keeps me really busy, so my mind is generally off it.  He’s already told me that he knows when/how he’s going to do it and that I just have to wait.  I’m content to do that since I’m sure I’ll only focus more on the fact that he’s not with me once we’re engaged.

    I do, however, still find myself making jabs at him like when someone says something engagement related on my wall I make some witty remark like “hm…yeah D…when IS the wedding…?”.  So maybe I’m resentful inside and I don’t know it.  πŸ˜› 

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