(Closed) Does anyone else get complaints about their reception?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s unfortunate that people are focusing on that!  And if people “can’t have fun” without an open bar they are probably the ones you would have to pick up off of the floor at the end of the night!  Screw them.  Turns out it’s YOUR day, not their’s!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think what may be prompting the bar comments is that there’s a difference between an open bar and a full bar.  You aren’t having a full bar, but are you having an open bar?  Meaning, guests don’t pay for their own drinks.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

That’s because people look forward to an open bar…. sad to say.  It’s one of those “givens” in life.  like if you date a football player, you get to wear his jersey…..  People just expect it.

I would stop sharing details this far from the wedding…. just say “we are still finalizing the details and it’s going to be so much fun.  I hope you can celebrate with us”.  and leave it at that.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We’re trying to keep closed-lip on details like that. We don’t want people to say things like that to us and we don’t want to justify anything. We’ll let them know on the invites what they need to know (cash beer/wine bar, heavy appetizers for dinner, cake and cupcakes for dessert, DJ and dancing). We are not discussing anything beforehand and skirt discussing details.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ssttpp:  So it IS an open bar, it’s just not a full bar.  People may react more positively if you tell them it’s an open bar, and you can just leave the not full bar part out of it 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are having a full open bar at our reception, but if we were having something similiar to what you are doing and someone made a comment like that to me, I’d let them know they can keep their ass at home. I think its perfectly fine for you to offer beer, wine and a signature drink.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How old are these guests insulting the “no open bar” feature?!  You’re having beer and wine AND a signature drink!  I feel like only a real alcoholic would make such a rude and insensitive comment.  This is your wedding, not a college keg party.  

And no band should be fine.  Will any music be playing in your venue at all?  Even if there’s no room for dancing, I’ll bet you could play some sort of music just to set a mood and ambiance.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How rude! I think beer and wine with a signature drink is perfectly acceptable. I would be happy with that as a guest! Will they have the option of purchasing a different drink if they “only drink x drink”?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I told my friends we are having beer and wine only because I don’t trust them with free liquor!  I did tell them if they wanted to sneak a flask or something I didn’t care as long as they didn’t get too stupid!

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