(Closed) Does anyone else have FSIL/SIL problems?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just listen to your fiance. Sometimes people don’t mesh. It could be jelousy, it could be she just doesn’t like you, you might never find out. It isn’t worth stressing yourself over

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I do, but not exactly like yours. At times she is nice to me. Shes VERY moody and I feel like I have to force myself to be nice to her. All of this because I dont want to upsetthe Fiance and start family problems.

Once you are actually married and her brothers wife, say and do exactly what you please without giving a sh*t.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

how old is she? I’m guessing late teens?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

just because you are marrying into the same family does not mean you have to be friends – polite, respectful and friendly yes but if you have nothing in common then its a hard ask to be friends

i like and respect my SIL’s, one is an amazing fantastic woman who i admire but i rarely speak to them and one lives in the same street and the other about 5mins away.  we really dont have much in common except for being in the same family. yes if they rang me in the middle of the night needing help im out the door and on my way but otherwise please dont bother me. maybe your Future Sister-In-Law feels like i do

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@InATizzy:  youre both 23? Hmm.. something tells me you have accomplished more in your life than she has. Perhaps its a case of jealousy?

Whatever it is, good luck!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

OMG My Future Sister-In-Law is a total B*%$! She totally ignores me and gives me the cold shooulder. I CAN’T STAND IT!!! When we go over to her house she never comes up to say “hi” and greet me. She acts like I’m not even there, it’s like she looks right through me. When I finally go up to her to say “hi” she ALWAYS reponds “oh, hahaha I didn’t even see you there.” Seriously, because you were looking right at me! AHHHH I can’t stand it!! I excepted her frined request on Facebook, I had ignored it for a couple of months. I didn’t wnat her snooping through all of my pictures and commenting or judging. One day I put a post aobut how stressful wedding planning was and she commented something like – You know, you’re not the only one getting married. Fiance is too and I’m hurt that you haven’t asked for help or involoved our family in any of the planning- She made me look like a total jerk, as if I didn’t want help from FI’s family at all and I wasn’t going to involve them in anything.  I was so angry. A couple of weeks ago we went to her house for her son’s bday party. I thought it would be a perfect opportunity to talk wedding stuff and show them my binder of ideas. FAIL! His mom and 3 other sisters were totally interested, she on the other hand didn’t even come to take a look, she saw that I was showing them wedding stuff, but acted like she wasn’t interested. FOR REAL!! I had it with this woman! I will no longer go out of my way for her for ANYTHING. I have decided to ignore her and not let her bother me. I’m better off, and so id Fiance because he doens’ have to see my cry and complain. I’ve have been nothing but nice to her. All of his other sisters are great, but she is just so rude and horrible.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with 80sbee that she is probably jealous because A) you’re getting a lot of attention from her family about the wedding/engagement and B) she wants to get married or have a meaningful relationship but doesn’t 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If Fiance isn’t concerned about you having a relationship with her then I would just be polite but not go out of my way to be nice or mean. She’s most likely looking for attention and any attention -positive or negative-is giving her what she wants. Just ignore her.

I don’t have any problems with my FSILs but I’m not close with them either. I wouldn’t even say that I’m friends with them or my FBILs. (I have 2 of each.) We are all friendly and and it’s not uncomfortable but everyone is in different places in their lives. Out of Fiance and his 4 brothers and sisters, only his younger two siblings are close with each other. So, it’s not all that important to Fiance for me to have a relationship with any of them. Likewise, my brother and I aren’t super close but we’re much closer than FI’s family. I would say Fiance and my brother are friends but I wouldn’t say either of them go out of the way to spend time/talk to/hang out with each other.

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Not everybody is going to get along.  Ideally, you would get along with your Future Sister-In-Law.  But, that may not be feasible if you guys have conflicting personalities.  My Future Sister-In-Law and I don’t get along, whatsoever.  We don’t fight.  We just don’t speak.  I ignore her and try to pretend she isn’t around.  I did try to make an effort, in the beginning, but I’ve found that it’s just not worth wasting my time and energy on her.  If it’s not important to your Fiance that you be close to her, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Trust me, you are not alone! My Future Sister-In-Law is a complete whack-job. She rolls her eyes, huffs and puffs at me, and is basically a crazy-jealous-psycho.  We are not even allowed to talk about the wedding in front of her in case we “upset” her. How are we supposed to include her and invite her to events and things if we can’t even talk about the wedding in front of her?

I hope you are able to ignore her and enjoy your special day! That’s my plan, anyway!

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