(Closed) Does anyone else have future in-laws from a different culture?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

FI’s father is Cuban, he came to this country when he was a teenager and lives in Miami, and his mother is Irish (they are seperated). He remarried a Cuban woman. They are like Dezi and Lucy (if Lucy was Cuban), it’s hilarious.

Fiance wasn’t really interested in incorportating anything Cuban into the day, but he and I will go to a cigar bar for an afterparty! He always tells me that his dad was more than happy to leave Cuba behind, so other than food, he wasn’t exposed to much culture, so it’s not as important to him.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MM423: Yup; I’m Asian, Buddhist, and very traditional.  Fi’s parents are not religious, but very middle-America, Waltons family kind of people.  Luckily, they are very open to whatever needs to be done, but I do feel bad for them sometimes, because some of it is so new to them.

There’s a part in the Buddhist blessing ceremony when Fi and I have to ask their forgiveness so we can start our marriage with a clean slate.  They’re very nervous about their part in it, even though it’s pretty small.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MM423: My in laws are Russian too! πŸ™‚ Definitely some cultural differences…my Mother-In-Law didn’t understand the idea of us not wanting kids at the wedding. To her, family is family, and EVERYONE should be invited!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MM423: Hahaha… that’s a pretty great thing to be worried about.  πŸ™‚

Seriously though, talk to your parents beforehand so they know what to expect.  Worse come to worse, make sure the video is rolling when they take their shots.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are going to be the epitome of a melting pot lol. FH is Mexican, Spanish, Egyptian, French, German, and Native American, and I am Black. FH’s dad’s side is Mexican and Spanish, but he doesn’t speak to them. His mom’s side is the rest. It’s not really affecting our planning though, which is really nice. We do have to talk about religious aspects of the ceremony because his mom’s side isn’t religious at all. Other than that, everything has been smooth sailing!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My future in-laws are going to be Dutch and Japanese. Thankfully, we do not have any cultural problems and/or input from them. My family is, however, Russian πŸ™‚  So, on the issue of cash vs gifts – that’s very russian. Me and my Fiance are not expecting gifts and are expecting cash, that’s the way it’s done in Russia. My mom does not understand may traditional North American wedding things, so I explain it to her.

@MM423: Good luck with getting RSVP cards. There’s no such concept as RSVP in russian culture. I’ve been chasing my russian friends for their rsvp for a few weeks now.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Imagelicious: THAT IS SO TRUE!!! I thinkw e got mayyybe 10 RSVPs from DH’s whole side of the family. But on the upside, they were all very generous cash gifters πŸ™‚ 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Future In-Laws are Korean. I lived in Korea for two years and my fiance moved back to Canada with me so my future in-laws are still back in Korea. They are non-traditional and very happy that he’s marrying me (which is amazing because many Korean families would have a problem with that – especially their son marrying a white girl). They haven’t had any say in the wedding planning process though – only because of the language barrier and the distance. However, when we speak to them about the wedding they seem overjoyed and very happy about all the decisions made. I am incorporating the culture into our wedding whenever I see fit so they appreciate that. We are also having a Korean wedding a year after our wedding here to accomodate everyone in Korea πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m marrying into an Argentine family…..

I am incorporating the classic foods, some of the bridal party traditions, because It makes things simple and I’m excited to share the culture! Luckily we haven’t had any problems. Eventually when I go to Argentina to live, I will get married their too, which I will abandon my American ideals to celebrate how they do πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

FI’s mum is British and his dad is Pennsylvania Dutch. They’re both Quakers. My family is large and mainly Irish Catholic. While the differences aren’t huge, they’re definitely there. His parents are very quiet and dare I say quaint. My family is loud and can get rowdy. His family doesn’t drink. Mine? Well, we’re Irish, drinking is practically a sport.

We’re having small clashes over wedding stuff, nothing huge. His family feels like we should spend the least amount of money, invite almost no one and pretty much elope. My family thinks weddings are family reunions and should be a somewhat lavish events.

Luckily both sides are saying “Well, this is how we would do it, but do whatever makes you happy.” At least for now. We’ll see once it gets closer.

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