(Closed) Does anyone else have this problem??? FI is crazy!

posted 7 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Although I don’t have this problem with my SO, I think if EVER there was a day for a good weave it would be your wedding day! You will be looking at these pictures for the rest of your life – you should feel gorgeous and glamorous and if the hairstyles you love require a weave I say go for it. I bet when he looks back on the big day he will remember how happy he was and not wether or not you wore hair extensions. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Well first off you’re gorgeous (your pic) and you’d look good in anything. But a lot of men (including my FI) dislike anything “fake” on a girl. When I put coverup on for occasions the first thing he does is comment about how he likes less makeup and the thought of extensions gross him out. BUT ITS YOUR WEDDING. I can see why you would want extensions SO many more options and it’s not like you are going to leave it on for the rest of your relationship. You said you did your research and can’t find any other hair style. I think he will survive πŸ˜‰

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you should respect his opinion, he is marrying you for you πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My Fiance is the same way… However, he will NOT get his wish. BUT you will need to make a compromise.. FOOL HIM! Add a little but nothing obvious. I actually did this my past b-day day and when I told him it was weave he couldnt believe it. And he admitted for the first time in our 4 yr relationship that he liked my hair πŸ™‚ Here’s a pic of the weave I had in my hair for my b-day

 

 

And this is a pic of me with my real hair

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

As said on PP, my FH doesn’t like anything fake – nails, hair, eye lashes, etc. But that works for me because I don’t put too much effort into my everyday look. When I do wear makeup, he thinks I don’t need it. With that said – do what makes you happy.  Maybe a few extensions to make your style fuller wouldn’t be the worst thing. He might not realize it. Happy medium.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance is similar, but like you I don’t REALLY NEED the weave. I just need a little bit of help. So I’m thinking about doing some clip in extentions. That way I can style it the way I want and get the look/length, but come wedding night I can pull them out with our the mister even knowing they were there. I looked them up and you can byt them pre made or make them yourselves. THey are just like a barrett.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

That’s too funny. When I had extensions my SO liked it, he wasn’t against it. When I took them out, I could tell he liked my natural hair the best. I haven’t discussed the issue of extensions or anything for the wedding day, I’m kinda waiting to see how long and thick I can get my real hair to grow hahaha. I agree with one of the PP’s in saying you should add a little something. He’s marrying you yes, but it’s also your wedding day and it’s so important for us to feel BEAUTIFUL on that day πŸ™‚ Compromise ! 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My man has said the same thing, that he doesn’t want me to wear a weave for the weddding, but I totally agree with you in that it adds fullness. I agree that a summer time wedding with your own hair out it will be challenging to hold up the style with the humidity being a factor, whereas adding some tracks would minimize the amount of your hair left out and make the style last longer. I think compromising with some tracks is a good compromise. And you walking down the aisle looking gorgeous witll get rid of any objection he might have had!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope, not a problem for me thank goodness! He says he doesn’t care what I wear, as long as it looks good. I have to admit I love weave. Probably to an unhealthy degree. While most would say I don’t need it, as my real hair is a nice length and relatively thick. When people see my hair on those rare occassions, they always say the same thing: You don’t need weave! No, but me likes it alot. I like to change up my look at least twice a month and weave helps me do that without damaging my hair. So, while I know my man prefers my real hair because he likes to play in it, he is good with weave too πŸ™‚

 

 

As for the OP, go with the weave on your day. The last thing you need is to have your hair looking crazy on your pics. He will get over it, trust me girl!!!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Im so happy this is one wedding problem im not having. I love him with all my heart but he will never start telling me how i wear my hair and dressing. Sorry πŸ™

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@BlissfulMrs: You are very pretty! Your hair looks awesome in all of the pictures you posted, but I understand where you are coming from. 

I definitely have the same problem. My Fiance really does not want me to wear extensions of any kind on my wedding day. Truthfully, I never wear them anyways. I wore weave once to prom and that was a huge mistake haha! I wore clip-in extensions a few times during my undergrad years, but I found them to be a hassle and annoying. Now, for my wedding it’s different. I would love to wear my hair down (and I plan on it), but, even though my hair is mid back length and will probably be around waist length for the wedding, I want to wear my hair with loose curls so it will shrink a bit. I also would like it to be extremely full. My hair is fairly full, even, and dense…BUT my individual strands are ‘fine’. So I think on my wedding day I might like to revisit some clip-ins or SOMETHING for extra volume and also for something a bit different. I mentioned it to my Fiance and at first he didn’t say anything, but I guess he was thinking about it because one day he randomly out of nowhere said, “Babe, I really don’t want you to wear any weave on our wedding day.” I agreed and he is happy, but now I’m wondering if I should have given in so easily. My Mother also does not understand why I would want to wear hair extensions on my wedding day…so maybe I should just let it go. Undecided
 

Post # 15
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Newbee

I think that your Fiance has a right to express his opinion on the topic but the decision is ultimately yours. I think that if you do wear the extentions get the clips so that on your wedding night you can take them out and he can see his wife just the beautiful way that she is.Laughing

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think there is oa way to compromise… I didnt do extensions until my engagement photos and my Fiance loved them. He also told me that he loves me in any look…

I would discuss it with him and take it from there

 

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