(Closed) Does anyone else have to battle for child support? (long, sorry!)

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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first of all awesome job of not taking his bullshit anymore! Secondly the fact that you are getting $26 a month to support his child is crazy! I wonder how he sleeps at night!! Uurrrgghh! I don’t what state your in but illinois has a Work Or Jail program….either pay up or you driving licsence is suspended and you do 30 days in jail! Just make sure you bring proof of EVERYTHING tomorrow! Good luck pumpkin and keep us updated please!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just tell yourself that you are doing this for your child. Even if you can manage without it, and are currently paying all her expenses, you also need to be saving for her future.

Just talk to the judge, don’t even look at him if it bothers you. If you were still together, he would be supporting this child. You don’t turn into a  “money hungry bitch” because you want the best for your child.

I wouldn’t agree to his proposal for $200 per month. He’s not paying it now. What cause do you have to believe that he will pay it in the future?

Get an order for a realistic amount based on your current circumstances. If he has more visitation in the future, he can always apply to havet he amount reduced.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You need to go to court and fight for every penny. Don’t give in. Your daughter deserves that money.

Where I live though even if they’re not divorced, and happily married, the ex still would get half of the child support. Your child support would be reduced based on him having more children regardless of their relationship.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do what you have the right to do according to the courts and then resolve that it’s not “you” doing it… it’s the state.

I’ve had to go round and round with my DS father about child-support and currently (the last year) he’s REFUSED to give his address so he can be served for court dates and REFUSES to go to them… Before they reliquenshed his tax return he was 7k in arrear and that’s only b/c I have him ordered for 200/mth and it wasn’t enforced until our divorce date which was 2 years AFTER our seperation.

I would let the courts fight for your 490/mth and just let them deal with it.

Be prepared to not see any of it for a while though… Even if you don’t though, I’m sure that as long as you’re doing your part then the strain between you and your Darling Husband will diminish b/c it will then be totally up to the courts to go after him and not you.

Sorry you’re in this boat… it can really stink sometimes =/

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