Post # 1
I’m the type of person that loves hugs and stuff but I just can’t have someone hanging on me constantly. Even when I go to bed I’m 29593458 degrees and so hot that I always tell Fiance to please not cuddle me because I’m hot and uncomfortable. (Our apt doesnt have an AC in the bedroom and we have sliding windows so we can’t put one in) I feel bad because I know it must hurt his feelings sometimes but I really just don’t know what else to do about it. I can cuddle for a little while on the couch while watching a movie or something but then I need my space and my own room on the couch. Please tell me I’m not crazy and someone else is like this?
Post # 3
I enjoy cuddling in bed, but it’s usually very hard for me to fall asleep unless I have my own space, so usually we cuddle for a while and then go to our separate sides of the bed. I also sometimes hate being touched when I’m upset. Like, sometimes hugs are nice and comforting and sometimes I just want to be left alone!
Post # 4
@ENarcy: That someone is me…and my husband! We will get right into bed and hug cuddle and whatever….but then when we really get tired…were like…K,Night…and we spread away like a few inches. Problem is…we have a cat. She gets up there and sleeps right between us with her tail in my husbands face and her head on mine! That’s the unresolved issue
By the way…im a huge hugger and cuddler otherwise but yeah when im trying to sleep….Can’t happen
Post # 5
It’s totally the other way around for us. I NEED to cuddle when sleeping (at least when I am going to sleep), and Fiance hates it because he said he cannot rest well when esp I sleep on him. However, this is not at all influenced by the temperature, because in the winter too he claims he doesn’t sleep very well when we have to cuddle the whole night. So what he has been doing is letting me fall asleep on him first, and then roll me over and put me on the other edge of the bed. I don’t have any hurt feeling though, because I think it’s kind of funny, but sometimes I’m not happy because we’re always waking up in different far end of the bed (we have king size), unlike in those movies where they always wake up cuddling and whispering good morning to each other, LOL.
Post # 6
Oh that’s terrible! I’m normally very affectionate with my Fiance and love to touch/be touched, but I completely agree–I HATE being cuddled when it’s super hot. Do you at least have fans in the bedroom, and a couple of fans directing air from a cooler room into your room at night? Our central AC isn’t very effective in the bedroom, but leaving the door open and pointing a fan in the living room towards the bedoom helps A LOT.
Post # 7
We do have fans but it’s just that when I’m trying to sleep I’m too hot and can’t get comfy when he’s behind me all wrapped around me.
There are nights Fiance has a death grip on me after I’ve fallen asleep. There are times I’ve woken up literally hanging off of the bed and when I mention it to him the next day I get “Well I wanted to cuddle and you kept moving away” usually my response is “i’m asleep I don’t know what I’m doing!”
It’s getting to the point where I feel awful about it but some people just need space sometime I guess?
Post # 8
Agree, the heat makes me un-touchable!
But I have learned to work with it since I live with a touchy feely 🙂
Post # 9
yea my husband and i are super cuddly and touchy, but we also get in our “not now babe” moods lol
when it comes to bedtime, he could totally sleep with me laying on his chest but i’m like, “ok good night, get on your side”. it’s not comfortable! i’m thin and my limbs fall asleep so easily if i’m in a weird position or if there’s too much weight on my arms or legs so it doesn’t work.
Post # 10
@ENarcy: Is your avatar of a dog in a dinosaur costume? If so, I NEED THAT.
Fiance gets like that. He will start pushing me away and say ‘TOO HOT TOO HOT!’. It makes me furious! I can’t help that I am so warm.
Post # 11
my husband is like this – he cannot stand to be touched by anyone except me and even that i wonder about – i always ask what happened to him as a kid haha he flinches or jumps everytime i come near him. i honestly dont think he will ever get used to it.
i’m def a cuddly kind of person on a normal basis but when i get in bed i NEED space – i can snuggle for a minute but i cannot sleep if im touching someone else.
Post # 12
I love to be touched unless I’m too warm, then I just get frustrated and crabby haha
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Post # 14
@ENarcy: you’re not crazy at all! sometimes i feel like that even when I’m not too hot!! sometimes I just like to be left alone!
Post # 15
I love it, but yeah, there are moments where I just want him to go away. I rarely see him due to opposite work schedules and to top it off I have a bad back. Sometimes cuddling on the couch puts me in a position that aggrivates my back but I tolerate it because I don’t see him. But when I’m trying to sleep it’s usually hands off. I get hot easily when I’m touched and I’m a particular sleeper because of my back. Sometimes we cuddle when falling to sleep but it’s very rare. I love being touched. There’s a time and place for everything, however. 🙂
Post # 16
We always cuddle on the couch or before we go to sleep, but I overheat super easily so I inevitably end up moving away after a while.
DH also has a habit of coming over and hugging me every time I’m carrying something, eating, or on my way to the bathroom, and it bugs the hell out of me. Let me put down my heavy bag! Let me eat in peace! And for the love of god, LET ME PEE!!!
He knows darn well it bugs me, and he does it intentionally with his biggest “I’m being a jerk and loving every minute of it” smirk on his face.