Does anyone else not care if someone wears white to your wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper

I def wouldn’t care – it would honestly amuse me. Anyone who deliberately wears a white, bridal-looking dress to someone else’s wedding has got bigger issues going on and they’re the one who’s gonna look like a laughing stock, not the bride! 

Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I dont mind, I actually want an all white wedding. Guest and wedding party in white and all the decor.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee

If wouldn’t care in the slightest.  If someone wore an actual wedding dress to our wedding I’d have a brief wtf moment (although probably no more so than if I saw one of my friends wear a wedding dress to work or to the gym or somewhere equally bizarre), but any other white dress or clothing would be absolutely fine.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think there’s more to it than the risk of someone mistaking the guest for the bride. If you’re invited to a wedding, hopefully you’re close enough to the couple to know who the bride and groom are. The bride is also the one who walks down the aisle. Obviously, no matter what guests wear, everyone knows who the bride is.

That’s beside the point. The bride getting to wear white to a wedding is tradition. A lot of people are traditional or have dreamed of that particualr aspect of their wedding for a long time.

I would have been angry/upset if any grown woman had dared wear white on my wedding day.

Now, my dress was actually more of a blush, and I did have a family member ask me about her daughter’s dress, which was going to be champagne. I told her honestly, that it was perfectly fine. But when she heard my dress was blush, she decided that her daughter would wear a different color. Her daughter is a teenager, so I feel bad about this, because I know how important what you wear to events can be for some teenage girls. But it was the mom’s decision, as I was honest in that it wouldn’t bother me at all. Actually, for me, age is an important factor even in the white dress. If any teenager or child at my wedding wore white, I’d have been fine with that too.

Post # 35
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Busy Beekeeper

knotyet :  The bride getting to wear white to a wedding is tradition. A lot of people are traditional or have dreamed of that particualr aspect of their wedding for a long time.

I would have been angry/upset if any grown woman had dared wear white on my wedding day.

But someone else wearing white doesnt detract from YOU dreaming about or wearing white. Someone else wearing a pony tail doesnt mean that YOU cant wear a pony tail. Unless your life is mean girls “you cant sit with us” if you wear sweat pants two days in a row, its just such a silly thing to be upset about.

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I didn’t care, and I can honestly only remember what like 2 people wore (probably because they are in a ton of the photos lol) and the rest are a blur.

Post # 37
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Helper bee

I recently lost my shit on my own mother a couple of weeks ago because she wanted to wear a long white dress to my wedding that’s in a few months. I felt like she would be making an ass out of herself and me in front of everyone. I also felt like she was being disrespectful to me. It was easily something that someone could wear as a wedding dress down the aisle. I was pissed… and honestly I’m still a little salty about it. We didn’t speak for about a week… now she wants to wear black (eye-roll). I’m still not pleased about her wanting to wear black but, it’s better than the f-ing wedding dress that she tried on and photographed for me! So yeah, depending on the situation, I’d be pissed. 

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

jellybellynelly :  In my honest opinion, it does. Everyone in my life respected me enough to not commit the faux pas of wearing white on my wedding day, so it no longer matters for me personally.

I’m not the only one that feels this way, which is why this is even a thing. There are commenters on this thread who hold the same opinion I do.

There are a plethora of colors that are out there. If someone goes out of their way to wear white, the one color they should avoid, on someone elses’ wedding day, than I wouldn’t want them at my wedding anyway.

Post # 39
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Honey bee

What other people choose to put on their body affects me none.  Zero concerns.  Not one ounce of my happiness or well-being is derived from what other people choose to wear nor do I have the time in my day to give a damn.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

Both my mom, my Mother-In-Law and two of my SIL’s wore white. Unplanned. They all looked great and were totally comfortable. Who cares?!?

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

Nope, I’m the bride.  If my guests don’t know that, then why did I even bother to invite them?

Post # 43
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Busy bee

pussinboots07 :  I didn’t think that I cared–because what’s the big deal? But then a 20-something guest wore a white lace, floor-length dress to my wedding. I can’t help but give side-eye to that one. But honestly, I think it annoys me a little because as a person, I lean towards “following rules and etiquette” more than “do whatever you want.” It bothers me sometimes when I see people not following good table manners/traffic laws/etc. Maybe that makes me stuck-up, I’m not sure, haha.  

Post # 44
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Newbee

i wouldn’t be bothered, like a pp said, unless they are dressed in a way that they could be mistaken for the bride, then don’t mind.

I wouldn’t mind unless its a floor length dress.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Honestly, I don’t think I’ll really care unless it’s blatantly obvious that they did it purposefully to try and spite me (such as a bridal dress). Thankfully I can’t think of any of my guests who would do this, so I won’t be worrying about it. However I AM concerned with people wearing t-shirts and jeans…sigh…not that it really matters, guests can wear what they want, but it’s more like a, “Really? You can’t wear a button up on this ONE day?”

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