Post # 1
I’m just wondering if I’m the only bride who doesn’t feel stressed about the wedding?
I see a lot of people talk endlessly about all the stress leading up to the big day, so much so that they wish they could do it over again just to avoid the stress, and I feel like maybe I’m missing something important, because I just don’t feel stressed? My wedding is just over a month away, and yes of course there’s still small things to take care of, but I’m not stressed about it..Of it gets done (which I’m sure most of it will)then great, but if not.. I’m sure it won’t be the end of the world, right? I still haven’t got all my rsvps back, but I’m sure I will.. And if I don’t, I’ll just call those people, no big deal?
Im not like this laid back, “nothing ever bothers me” type of person, I just don’t find the wedding planning all that stressfull. So I get confused when I see brides-to-be talking about how stressed they are even at 1 year/6 months/2 months out.
Whats the deal, am I the only one? Am I missing something?
Post # 3
Nope, your not alone. I’m not feeling particularly stressed either. Yes, there are things I need to decide/plan/take care of. Yes, there are things I’d like Fiance to get off his ass and do – but they will get done. None of them are pressing. None of them will make or break the day.
I’m feeling pretty good about it all actually 🙂
Post # 4
@Glasgowbound: Me too!! I’m excited! If anything maybe I’m a bit nervous because I’m not crazy about being the centre of attention, but I’ll get over that once I have a glass of champagne. Lol!!
maybe it’s because I never intended on getting married, so this isn’t something I’ve been planning and dreaming of my whole life, so there’s really no image to love up to. I bet that helps.
Post # 5
Hmm. I’m not stressed at ALL about getting married. For the wedding, I’m slightly stressed about my DIY projects, but I know if they go all sorts of sideways, I have a plan B, C and D. I anticipate a spike in my stress level around December when huge chunks of money need to be paid. But that’s just because I have a certain amount of frugality in my inner being that weeps when large checks are written.
Post # 6
I posted a thread just like this a while ago!
I’m beginning to get some social anxiety. I realized that as much as I want the day to be about US, it’ll be all eyes on me. Me, tomboy-ish person who never wears makeup and rarely dresses up, dressed in makeup, heels, a REALLY expensive fancy gown. EEP!
In terms of planning? No stress. I come from a family of wedding and party planners so I have discovered this is in my blood!
In terms of the future? That I have nothing but confidence for. I am excited to make my partner of 8+ years my husband and makewhat we’ve already been doing for 6+ years official.
Post # 7
i do not feel stressed, about the wedding at least.
my mom is putting pressure on me to get everything done ASAP. but i have my own lists and deadlines and know that everything will get completed in time.
Post # 8
@FortiesFlare: we are wedding-day twins!
and i feel the same way! planning is really not that bad! i have rather enjoyed it and feel like stress won’t hit me until the week or day of.
Post # 9
I’m not feeling stressed, but we have a pretty long engagement and a reception venue that does A LOT of the work for us. We have everyone but a DJ and a limo set already, so I’m feeling more excited for it to get closer than anything else.
Post # 10
I wasn’t feeling stressed about the wedding at all, but then we threw in some major life changes (moving to a new city for a new job, having to sell our house, but a new house, study for a boards exam for my profession, which will be the week after my wedding…), and now I’m majorly stressed. If it weren’t for all this other stuff I wouldn’t be stressed though….
Post # 11
I’m not stressed at all but I am more than a year out, so I feel at this point I shouldn’t be. Talk to me in a year, I could be a madwoman entirely.
I’m also just letting my mother run with a lot of the details so that could be another reason I’m not feeling the pinch yet.
Post # 12
@ferdie224: This is a different situation all toGether! I’d be stressed if I had that much stuff going on too! Fiance and I renovated our old house last year and sold it and bought our new house within two months and it was major stressfull. That was definitely different.
Post # 13
Oh thank goodness! At last! I was starting to feel seriously unbridal. I am planning a wedding in six months (he proposed a few weeks ago and we tie the knot in November…in a different country). We’ve just sold our house and will be in the new one (which needs total renovation) over the summer and my company is restructuring. We always wanted an intimate wedding so we think we’re looking at about 50 guests for our twenties bash (and we’re providing accomodation, a welcome diner, brunch the next day etc). We have been really lucky in that we’ve found an amazing location and the woman that runs it is spectacularly organised. So we told her what we wanted and she’s sorting it all out for us. We deliberately chose the suppliers that she likes so that we know they work well at the venue. We have various other friends getting married this year and I have actually felt like I’ve had to pretend to be more stressed about the wedding than I am because otherwise they’ll think I’m boasting. Don’t get me wrong, I really want a lovely day, but it honestly wouldn’t bother me if, for example, my bouquet got lost or similar. I mean, it’s not ideal, but at the end of the day, a wedding is just a party. As long as I get to marry my best friend, I really couldn’t care less about millions of “details”. I just don’t have the time. I don’t see how organising a party can be so stressful. I blame the media. I bought a bridal magazine the day I got engaged and threw it out before I finished it. Who really needs to read all of those terrifying “to-do” lists with their crazily early deadlines? Most of the articles seemed aimed at piling pressure on brides to feel that they must have this Perfect Day. How can anything possibly live up to that kind of expectation?
Bottom line: I’ve tried my best to organise a lovely, fun day where everyone we love will be filled to the brim with bubble and food but nothing else really matters to me other than being his wife. The idea of actually getting stressed over print quality on invitations or similar just seems a bit “Mrs Bucket” to me.
Post # 14
@FortiesFlare: I got married about a month ago (oh wait, exactly one month ago! Happy anniversary to me!) and I was totallly calm throughout the whole thing. I kept thinking “OK, one week away, I bet I’ll get nervous now!” Nope, didn’t happen. Even the wedding day, I think I was asked about 100 times “OMG, so how nervous are you” I kept saying “I’m really not. Is something wrong with me?” But I think when you know, you know. Not that there’s anything wrong with being nervous or stressed. We just had all of our details taken care of, and to me, it didn’t really matter if something went wrong. I was still going to get to marry him, and that’s what it’s all about anyway, right?