Post # 1
…or am I just weird?
Fiance and I decided not to have them because
a) We went a child-free wedding. (Or at least children under 12.)
b) Our families are older, and we don’t really have any young children in either of our families, and we’re a younger couple, so most of our close friends don’t have kids yet.
Is anybody else’s wedding flower girl/ring-bearer free? What did you do with the rings before the wedding?
Our wedding is on the beach, and our florist is putting out petals on the center ‘aisle’ before the ceremony, so I’m not really worried about that.
Post # 3
We didn’t. Our only attendants were our sisters — one on each side. His sister carried one ring, and my dad carried the other and gave it to my sister to hand the officiant (my sister couldn’t be trusted not to lose it! :)).
Post # 4
Us! We also skipped having a wedding party.
We asked SO’s brother to hold the rings. He sat in the first row and came up when the officiant asked for the rings.
Post # 5
We’re not having any. The best man will bring the rings in his pocket.
We aren’t having a super small wedding party or anything (3 on each side, traditional processional, all that jazz). We just don’t like kids that much, especially at weddings. LOL!
Post # 6
It makes sense not to have them if you don’t plan on having younger children at the wedding. I didn’t have a ring bearer, but I had two flower girls.
Them being as young as they were (4 and 6) I didn’t want them carrying any rings, so the Maid/Matron of Honor carried my DH’s ring and the Bridesmaid or Best Man carried my ring.
Post # 7
We didn’t. We didn’t have anyone we could ask, but I don’t think we’d do it anyway.
Post # 8
We didn’t. In my opinion, you don’t need them at all, and only do this if you have very close children (like nieces or nephews) who you really want to include. Our oldest niece/nephew was 2 and we decided she was too young.
The best man kept the rings in his jacket pocket. In fact I’ve always thought that was the traditional thing to do anyway.
Post # 9
We didnt because we didnt want kids at our wedding at all and we didnt want to have to play the game of “this kid can come because he/she is in the wedding, but that kid cant”
Post # 10
We don’t for the same reasons you mentioned. My Maid/Matron of Honor will have his, his Bridesmaid or Best Man will have mine.
Post # 11
We’re seriously considering having a ring bearer but no flower girl. My FI’s cousin (who travels in for all big family holidays, so is really very close to his nuclear family) has a son who will be around 3 at the time of the wedding and would be a super precious addition. I’d also like to legitimize her family’s inclusion in the wedding and acknowledge how important they are to us. However, we just not as close to any little girls and I don’t want to include someone just so we have a set.
Post # 12
@wubewe: I don’t see anything wrong with Ring Bearer and no Flower Girl (or vice versa), and I’ve seen it done lots of times. They’re kids, they don’t need a partner.
Post # 13
We wouldn’t be having any if my FMIl didn’t want them. I don’t know any children on my side to use for it but Fiance has a ton of small cousins. It would be so much simpler without worrying about wrangling children that day!
Post # 14
We didn’t and it was fine 🙂 Our wedding was child free and we didn’t know any kids we were close enough to that warranted being in the wedding party. I did have my dog in the wedding as the “flower dog” with a dog collar with flowers on it
Post # 15
Were not having a flower girl or ring bearer. We decided on a child free wedding and just felt like it wasn’t necessary, plus we don’t have any young children were close with. No friends or close family members have little ones yet.
Post # 16
We had two FGs that were literally the only children at the wedding. They were more for the cuteness value than anything else since we didn’t have them toss anything. We didn’t have a Ring Bearer and we just gave our officiant the rings prior. It worked out fine.