Post # 1
So, I’m 16 weeks pregnant right now and I’ve always been excited to have my own kids and that bond I’ll have with my own baby…but when it comes to other people’s…ehh I’ve never really been a baby person. I don’t mind my family or friend’s kids but I’m never one to just want to hold and cuddle every baby I see. Now that I’m pregnant though, I almost feel like I’m even less interested in other people’s babies.
My SIL has 2 kids, one is 3 and the other just turned 1…and normally I’m really good with them but now that I’m pregnant I’ve found I just want nothing to do with holding the baby. DH’s family kept trying to pass the baby off to me every few minutes to hold this weekend when we were visiting saying how I needed to hold him because I needed all the practice I could get…and I just did NOT want it. I kept thinking about how their baby is constantly sick and every time I’d hold him he’d cough in my face, and I couldn’t stop thinking about how he could get me sick & how that could be bad for my pregnancyand my baby (which is probably irrational)…then I was also thinking that given the fact that I would have my own child that I’m fully responsible for soon enough I kind of wanted to enjoy the months I had left without having a baby in my arms all the time.
I felt guilty not wanting to hold him since we don’t see them that often, so I was trying to be subtle about it…but it was hard when I’d hand him off for 2 minutes and then all the sudden someone’s putting him back on my lap. Sooo…anyone else planning to have kids but not a big “baby” person? I’m hoping how I’m feeling isn’t super odd and some precursor for not being maternal enough…
Post # 2
I don’t love holding others babies. They are often fussy and since you don’t know them, they are hard to keep happy. My own, I love holding.
Post # 3
Oh boy, I hate holding babies. I have only now become comfortable with picking up cats, and babies are so much more fragile and precious when they’re little. I haven’t even held my FI’s newest nephew or my co-worker’s baby girl, when he brought her into the office. Luckily my Future Sister-In-Law wasn’t bothered when I explained how afraid I was of dropping the nephew, but I think my co-worker was actually offended that I told him I didn’t want to hold his little girl because I was afraid I would drop her (he is a jerk in general, though). I just get so nervous and it always feels like I am holding them wrong.
Post # 4
It’s difficult to explain but when it’s your baby you will feel differently. I promise.
Post # 5
Everyone loves their own kid 100x more than anyone else’s. I think there’s probably something that happens in a mothers mind that strengthens those protective/possessive feelings while pregnant as well. It seems more like you weren’t excited for the risk that the baby could invite than the actual thought of holding a baby.
Post # 6
I never really liked holding babies until my sister started having kids. I couldn’t get enough of hers, but everyone else’s? No Thanks!
Post # 7
Don’t worry!! You will feel differently with yours, I promise! It’s a much different feeling holding and loving your own baby.
Post # 8
lula0508 : It’s not so much that I don’t love holding other people’s children, but I get very nervous when holding a child that is not mine. I’m afraid that I won’t hold him/her the way the parents do and usually, the baby does get fussy realizing that you’re not his/her parent. I also tend to focus on cradling the head because I had one of the interactive baby dolls in my high school class years ago and as I was checking out at the grocery store (while holding onto the baby), the head flopped backwards and the baby started screaming. That has left a lasting impression! LOL!
Post # 9
Not a baby person. Didn’t want to hold my friend’s babes for more than 5 minute at a time. Had my son- obsessed with him. Could hold him all day. Still don’t want to hold other babies. Lol.
Post # 10
I have a son and I could cuddle him all day…I’m pregnant with baby Nr 2 and can’t wait to cuddle him either. I have absolutely no interest in holding anyone else’s baby. If a friend needs her baby holding for a few minutes I’m always hoping she won’t pick me 😀 So yeah – normal 🙂
Post # 11
Btw if you want an excuse, say ”I think I’m coming down with a cold”. No mother will let someone with a cold hold their baby 🙂
Post # 12
Not a fan of babies or kids (although I have two myself and love them to death).
Post # 13
Also not a fan of baby holding, but am looking forward to my own baby. Can’t attest to the shift of wanting to hold them even LESS once I’m pregnant (because I’m not pregnant), but I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
My Fiance and I plan on having kids in the future, but I have zero interest in holding other people’s babies/kids.
Post # 15
I dislike children in general, and I’m definitely not interested in holding anyone’s baby.