Does anyone else not really love holding babies?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I don’t love holding others babies.  They are often fussy and since you don’t know them, they are hard to keep happy.  My own, I love holding.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Oh boy, I hate holding babies. I have only now become comfortable with picking up cats, and babies are so much more fragile and precious when they’re little. I haven’t even held my FI’s newest nephew or my co-worker’s baby girl, when he brought her into the office. Luckily my Future Sister-In-Law wasn’t bothered when I explained how afraid I was of dropping the nephew, but I think my co-worker was actually offended that I told him I didn’t want to hold his little girl because I was afraid I would drop her (he is a jerk in general, though). I just get so nervous and it always feels like I am holding them wrong.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

It’s difficult to explain but when it’s your baby you will feel differently. I promise.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Everyone loves their own kid 100x more than anyone else’s. I think there’s probably something that happens in a mothers mind that strengthens those protective/possessive feelings while pregnant as well. It seems more like you weren’t excited for the risk that the baby could invite than the actual thought of holding a baby. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I never really liked holding babies until my sister started having kids.  I couldn’t get enough of hers, but everyone else’s?  No Thanks!  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Don’t worry!! You will feel differently with yours, I promise!  It’s a much different feeling holding and loving your own baby. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

lula0508 :  It’s not so much that I don’t love holding other people’s children, but I get very nervous when holding a child that is not mine. I’m afraid that I won’t hold him/her the way the parents do and usually, the baby does get fussy realizing that you’re not his/her parent. I also tend to focus on cradling the head because I had one of the interactive baby dolls in my high school class years ago and as I was checking out at the grocery store (while holding onto the baby), the head flopped backwards and the baby started screaming. That has left a lasting impression! LOL!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Not a baby person. Didn’t want to hold my friend’s babes for more than 5 minute at a time. Had my son- obsessed with him. Could hold him all day. Still don’t want to hold other babies. Lol. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have a son and I could cuddle him all day…I’m pregnant with baby Nr 2 and can’t wait to cuddle him either. I have absolutely no interest in holding anyone else’s baby. If a friend needs her baby holding for a few minutes I’m always hoping she won’t pick me 😀 So yeah – normal 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Btw if you want an excuse, say ”I think I’m coming down with a cold”. No mother will let someone with a cold hold their baby 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Not a fan of babies or kids (although I have two myself and love them to death).

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Also not a fan of baby holding, but am looking forward to my own baby. Can’t attest to the shift of wanting to hold them even LESS once I’m pregnant (because I’m not pregnant), but I wouldn’t worry about it too much. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

My Fiance and I plan on having kids in the future, but I have zero interest in holding other people’s babies/kids.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dislike children in general, and I’m definitely not interested in holding anyone’s baby. 

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