Post # 1
My cousin and her boyfriend had a baby boy on April 10th. They live about 3 hours away from most of my relatives and my cousin’s family. My younger cousin who is the sister of the one who had the baby is 17 and was very excited about having a nephew. She works part time at a candy/part store and she used her employee discount to get a box of bubble gum cigars to give out to relatives. Everyone got together for Easter Sunday and this was the first most of my relatives say the new baby. Throughout the day, relatives were dropping in and out.
My younger cousin gave out bubble gum cigars out to my aunt and uncle who came by first. My aunt and uncle have several grandchildren and my cousin gave them cigars for the grandkids. Soon after that , my cousin’s bf got my mad about that. Then my cousin told her younger sister, that it wasn’t her place to be handing out the cigars and that her bf should be handing them out. My younger cousin was hurt and then decided to not hand the cigars to anyone else. But my cousin’s bf didn’t even snap to hand out the cigars to the other relatives who came by that day. My younger cousin was hurt and she feels that what her sister’s bf did was rude. My cousin has always been the type to wear her heart on her sleeve but I do think in this situation her sister’s boyfriend was very rude . What does everyone think?
My younger cousin is still hurt by this and we chatted online last night and she said that she isn’t planning to talk to her sister or bf for a family event that is happening on Memorial Day weekend.
Post # 3
I do thin it was rude but not talking to them isn’t going to make things any better. That’s just being passive agressive which gets you no where.
The sister’s bf is correct that it is traditionally the proud father who hands out the cigars. But if he wanted to follow that then he should have started handing them out instead of the cousin, not just ignoring that they were there altogether.
Post # 4
He didn’t snap or think about handing them out until my cousin handed them out to an aunt and uncle and after he complained he still didn’t even remember to hand them out to other relatives who came by that day and my younger cousin got upset because of that.
I agree my cousin not talking to her sister and the bf won’t help.
Post # 5
If he wanted to be the father that hands them out, he should have brought them and handed them out himself.
The girl is only 17, she was just doing what she thought was a nice gesture and it was. The bf needs to chill out.
Post # 6
I agree he could have bought real cigars and handed those out. My cousin bought the bubble gum cigars for more relatives who don’t smoke and younger relatives. My cousin was only trying to be nice and she had no intention of stepping on anyone toes but I can see why she was mad because the bf couldn’t even remember to hand them out after he complained.
Post # 7
This guy needs to grow up. Your little cousin is only 17, how is she supposed to know what is wrong or right with baby ettiquette. It’s not as if she was doing something rude or spiteful. They aren’t even real cigars, it’s candy!
Just be supportive with her and try to make light of the situation by explaining to her that it’s an exciting and stressful time for a new father and he maybe didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. In the mean time I would suggest that someone talk to this BF and ask him to apologize to the girl. She is technically a child and he shouldn’t treat her that way no matter what it is she was doing.
Post # 8
I agree he shouldn’t have treated her that way. But the bf has a history of being rude with my cousin’s family. Antoher cousin who is a brother to these sisters told me some other stuff about the bf and it’s not very good. If the bf had a history of being nice ok guy I would think it was stress but I think he was just being jerk because of insecurities.