Post # 1
First off, hi, I’m new. Just joined up. (:
Anyway, maybe it’s because I’ve been waiting for some time now for a proposal that I feel like this, but does anyone else feel like that the square hinged jewelry box is still a ring box, no matter what’s in it?
I seriously thought my boyfriend was going to propose on Valentine’s Day this year (we’ve been together 3+ years, by the way). He was all secretive and wouldn’t tell me anything about my present or how much money he had spent. I gushed with my roommates and made extra extra sure not to bite my nails and to make them look nice and take extra care of myself. He came to my apartment to come pick me up and I decided to go ahead and give him his present (nothing too special), and then he decided to give me mine too. He gave me some roses and then pulled out that little white box. I freaked out, because first off, my roommates were sitting right there on the couch and I was just thinking to myself,”Seriously? Right here? Right now?”
And then I opened it and.. it was a necklace. A beautiful necklace, but STILL. Why would you give your significant other that box and not expect them to think there’s a ring in there?
I’m not complaining about the gift, I love it, but why tease me like that, dang.
Post # 3
Yeah…if I were going to give someone jewelry, I would make sure that if it’s in a box, it doesn’t AT ALL resemble -THE- square box. You would think that’s just common sense, but then again this seems to be a common mistake that guys make.
Sorry to hear you got your hopes up :/
Post # 4
Hey, I’m new too and totally know how you feel!
Luckily he’s never put anything in a box small enough to be confused, but he did hide a bracelet in a box inside a big box stuffed with paper. The whole time searchng through that big box hoping to find that tiny little one. Definitely a let down and then you feel ungrateful for the lovely gift he has bought!
My rule now is to try not to get excited or read into anything he says or does. Easier said than done though!
Hope you’re not waiting too much longer, but I’ve found the site a great support so far. Hope it helps you too.
Post # 5
On Christmas, in front of my family my SO gave me a little box all wrapped up. Inside was a pair of earrings. I feel you.
Post # 6
One year (NOT FI) my then long-time bf gave me a box inside of a box etc….. and there was a ring in there. Not an engagement ring at all (didn’t even look like one)- but as soon as I opened it and was ever so happy his mother instantly piped in “Well now, that’s NOT an engagement ring… RIGHT???” Kill my moment B*^&h!
But, I think that’s probably one of those WHAT are you thinking…. guy things. They either don’t realize that it would make one thing it is a ring box at first glance. OR They think it is kinda amusing to make you squirm when you see it.
Sorry you got your hopes up. I know that pain. Your day will be here before you know it!
Post # 7
The Christmas before last (before I really considered myself to be ‘waiting’), I drove down to see my bf at his mum’s house. We exchanged presents in front of his mum and sister and he got me lots of lovely little things. Then he got out this little bag from a jewellery shop – it honestly didn’t cross my mind that it was a ring, because we weren’t at a stage just then when I was thinking a proposal was imminent. But before he gave it to me, he said: ‘Look, I just want you to know, this is NOT what you think it might be, ok?’ I was like: ‘What….?’. And then he said it again: ‘I just don’t want you to expect something and be disappointed.’ And I felt a little peeved, thinking: ok, ok, you haven’t got me an engagement ring! I get it! I really hope that when you do, it will not be in your mum’s living room after I’ve just driven half way across the country and am absolutely knackered!
Now, things are so different, as I’m sooo ready to be engaged. I think if he did that now I would cry!!!
Post # 8
I agree with you, that box should only be used for engagement rings 🙂
Before my fiance proposed I told him that I love receiving jewellery gifts, as long as they don’t come in THAT misleading box haha.
A friend of ours bought his girlfriend a ring for her birthday… and it wasn’t an engagement ring. I think she was crushed because she really wants to get engaged 🙁 Some men are so clueless.
Post # 9
The worst for me was 2 years ago at Christmas, I pulled a little blue bag from Tiffany out of my stocking and my heart started pounding…then realized it was a bracelet. An ABSOLUTELY beautiful and very expensive bracelet, but no ring. I felt so bad because SO was so excited about what he bought me, and I did love it, but I couldn’t help but feel just a little disappointed!
Post # 10
Welcome welcome! 🙂
@misskittenn: I would have been very crushed but I don’t think he meant it in a mean way.
@Tiger29: Aww! I know about feeling dissapointed when you shouldn’t because it was still soo sweet!
Post # 11
I think men shouldn’t gift in “the” box. But I also thinks guys shouldn’t buy rings as gifts until they’ve bought “the” ring. Hahaha
Post # 12
I cannot personally relate; however, a close gf of mine is in the same situation. It is a touchy subject for her. Since she is in her late 30’s, I know her bf loves her very very much. They’ve been together for 10 years and living together, but he hasn’t pop the question. On several occasion, he has mentioned to me and my husband; that he’s waiting to give her that perfect wedding. He doesn’t want to propose and not mentally and financially prepared to give his all. He’s waiting until it’s perfect! And it’s been 10 years and she’s still waiting…to me that’s love. Proposal or not, marriage or not.
Post # 13
Sorry if it’s a little irrelavant to the jewelry box, since i think it’s the proposal that’s the root of concern.
Post # 14
Before valentine’s day dinner in 2011, my SO came upstairs and handed me a “box” and then stood there ackwardly as I opened it and then said, it’s not an engagement ring but an “engaged to be engaged” ring. And then made me put it on my finger myself. Very thoughtful gift as I had lost the diamond in my promise ring months earlier but I was like, WTF is an engaged to be engaged ring?. Only my SO would come up with something like that. He didn’t want to call it a promise ring because we were together for 5.5 years at that point but didn’t want to call it an engagement ring. MEN!!!!!!
I’m seriously debating when we do get engaged and he asks me to pretend to say no or something just so I can make him sweat it out as much as he has made me. LOL. Perhaps you could try the same misskitten?
“Will you marry me??”
“You want me to carry you? What? You’re too heavy”
” I said will you marry me”
“You want me hurry up? Ok” 😛
hahaha. Not that I would actually do that because I would be too excited but a girl can dream right?
Post # 15
Wow! I didn’t expect so many responses. I’m glad I’m not the only one that has had this problem.
I love the present, I wear it frequently, but he had never been so secretive about any present before. Ha, usually I figure out what my presents are before I get them because he’s usually so excited to give them to me.
Funny story though, is that we actually talked about ‘the’ ring today, and he says he knows what he wants to get me. I was totally in shock.
Post # 16
@misskittenn: Guys are dense at times. Since the beginning of our relationship, matt has gotten me some really nice bling. He has great taste in jewellery & I know when he chooses the One Ring, he’ll do good. heh heh. and no, he’s never given me a box small enough to fool me. lol