Post # 1
During the day, I am confident, and happy, and can see that my fiance loves and and would do anything for me. The wedding plans are going really well and still 11 months away so Im VERY prepared already… yet in my dreams everything goes wrong!
Im at the wrong venue, Im getting my hair done and am an hour late for the ceremony,I am getting in the weirdest places (ie a public pool changing room)…
Then on the flip, non wedding dreams include ones where my fiance is cold to me, snubs me, doesnt care when other people are rude to me.
I wake up in tears sometimes Im so upset. I know its just stress with our upcoming move, and etc getting the better of me.. but does anyone else experiece this??
Post # 2
Scou: I had random nightmares about seeing my exes, my DH (then FI) cheating on me or calling off the wedding, etc. Judging from some of the other threads from bees, it’s not all that uncommon.
I would make it a point to try and insert some things in your life that are completely non-wedding related and stress free to help get your mind off of these things so much.
Post # 3
PoliticallyIncorrect: Thanks for the advice! My life is a giant stress ball right now, we are living across country for a few years, moving further north in 5-6 weeks, i just gave notice at my job and my bossess (Some of whoms are the few friends I have here) are making me feel like the business is going to fail without me (no pressure or anything)… so Ive been trying to exercise each day, just for me!
I know it doesnt help that FI is stressed as well, and he handles it by spending a lot of time alone on his computer/phone so were not together as much, and hes been on night shifts for 3 weeks straight.
Trying to think of other things I can do in a northern canada small town to relax hahaha.
Post # 4
Scou: I feel like when things are great in my life, my dreams totally mess with me. Like since I got engaged last week, I keep dreaming that I’m cheating on my FI. It’s so weird! Like in the dream I’m thinking, “this is a bad idea, why am I doing this?” but I keep doing it! It’s not with anyone from my real life, and I’ve never cheated on him in real life, it’s just totally random people. The other day I woke up feeling SOOOOOO guilty that I fessed up, haha my FI started laughing at me. He just goes, “babe, let’s just say that in your dreams you’re single- I think you should go for it!” LOL, I swear since that talk I haven’t had a dream like that again!
Post # 5
swonderful: Haha I love how your FI handled it. When I tell FI about my dreams he laughs too. It does make me feel better, because if he laughs it off it means he finds it ridiculous that he could never treat me like that. I wish talking to him made them stop! I get SO mad at him in my dreams.
I know im afraid of him leaving because of what happened with my parents, and only time can tell how long any relationship will last… but common dreams!