(Closed) Does anyone ever ask you if it's a diamond?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@Jabberwocky:  Thank you. I just choked on my own tongue! Awesome retort!

Post # 168
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

you can’t have it both ways….there are loads of threads on this site touting the glory of CZ, white saphire, and whatever other clear stones….and especially, by FAR, moissanite. Yet, the crux of the criticism over poor @joya_apera here is over the fact she believes in acknowledging a non-diamond by name?

If any of these non-diamonds are truly something about which you feel confident, comfortable, and proud…why would it matter whether she points its existence out or not?

Not 100% the same, i get that, but — I have breast implants. Yes, meaning, “fake” silicone bags of plastic shoved into my breasts. Are they non-holographic and visible in real life — making them “real?” Yes! Do I love the way they look? HELLLL yes! Do I expect everyone and their mother to believe they look just like boobies that are naturally ocurring in nature? NO! Do I expect people to pretend they believe they are my “real” breasts, because admitting they dont would “hurt my feelings,” even when it’s damn obvious that my 95 pound bone structure/body could never produce it’s own DDs without a little assistance? absolutely not. If I had a problem with people realizing and potentially commenting on the fact that my breasts were not in fact simple mammary glands grown by yours truly, well, I would not have had the enhancements installed.

As others have said…if you are going to adopt something, OWN IT! Whatever the implications, wear it with pride, and be prepared for others not feeling the same way and/or referencing the obvious truth if they feel so inclined..if you can’t…then don’t buy/wear/install/carry it.

Post # 169
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I live in regional Australia and no one has ever been that rude to ask me.  Then again, when I have showed them the ring, I’ve always explained that my Fiance and I have had my ring designed and made by a jeweller who is a close friend of my Fiance family and has made all the rings for the women in my FI’s family.  I do get some raised eyebrows and mutterings about the size of the centre diamond, being a 0.8 radiant as I have delicate hands which emphasises the size.  But I say to them sweetly that I intend to treasure my ring, like my upcoming marriage, for the rest of my life…

Post # 170
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, never.  And if they did it would be so petty and silly I’d probably laugh in their face without an answer.

Post # 171
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@polyblonde:  So everything that is different from the standard norm, defined by people in society might I add & is fully an OPINION we have to shout out to the world?

When I start getting gray hair & I dye it, I certainly will NOT be telling people “uh yeah, these 4 hairs are actually gray, but thanks for complimenting me on my hair dye.”

Post # 172
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

On my RHR, I have been asked by one friend once if it was really a diamond. She’s a very close friend and had just gotten engaged, and asked if that ring was really a diamond and if so if it was a carat because it looked big (lol no, it’s only half, but it was a nice compliment). It wasn’t at all weird in that instance, especially since she’d asked for help with finding an engagement ring so we’d gone to jewelry stores together to look at sparklies.

On my e-ring, I am asked ALLLLLLLL THE TIME if it’s a sapphire. A lot of people ask if it’s tanzanite. I think with those they’re just clarifying to try to be sure. I get some bizarre questions sometimes too. I’ve seen a lot of people with sapphire engagement rings, so it’s not like it’s totally unheard of, but a lot of people act like they’ve never seen one before. I have also had a LOT of “it’s HUGE!” and “I want one JUST LIKE IT, I now know my future engagement ring!” My center stone is just 2 cts which in my social circle isn’t even all that big, but I think on my lily-white skin the blue stands out a lot. NEVER get anyone complimenting on size if I wear a four carat CZ… CONSTANTLY get it if wearing the sapphire ring.

I’ve never asked anyone what their ring is. I’ve had several with CZs say that theirs are CZ, and I just compliment it like I would any other ring, you know, “I love it! It’s so sparkly and the style is so you! You must be very happy with it!” etc. Like, who cares what stone it is?  All I care about is whether or not it’s pretty.

Post # 173
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have a 7.5mm moissanite, which is pretty big compared to the girls I work with. They refer to it as “the rock.” But I’m a vet, and they are technicians, so when I got engaged they all assumed it was real. And then they all started asking me what my fiance did for a living, haha. I haven’t told them it’s moissanite yet (and no one has asked!), but I think someday I will. I want them to know that they could afford big rocks too!

Post # 174
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

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@islandgirl82: THank you!!!  Poor 
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@joya_aspera  After reading all these posts and everyone saying they are proud to wear a ( insert type of stone here) , I still can’t figure out why it would be rude for someone to Call it what it is? What is the big scandal about wearing something you love?

Post # 175
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@polyblonde:  🙂 +1 agree and I like fake boobs

Post # 176
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@ZoeJane:  For real.  Going back to the other suggestion that was made, do you also say “Her tits aren’t real” or “Her hair isn’t really red” and “She buys knock off Cheerios.”

 

Post # 177
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@mishana:  +100000000

Post # 178
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@polyblonde:  I think the difference might be that you specifically chose your additions, whereas for some women, they may or may not have chosen that particular non-diamond stone.

no one could have ever forced you to have implants so it’s a little different.

my ring is a 2ct diamond. one of my friends had a .5ct diamond. i could tell she felt extremely self conscious about her ring after seeing mine. It’s not my place to call her out on the size or the quality or anything else.

A lot of what

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@joya_aspera: is saying could be taken many different ways depending on the situation.

If you yourself have a CZ and are complimenting someone else’s it’s not as bad. But if you have a 2ct diamond and call someone out on having a CZ and they WISHED they had a diamond instead, it’s just humilating, belittling, and embarrassing.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

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@Birdi:  There is no scandal in wearing something you love.  However, there is a matter a manners and class when it comes to pointing out something about someone else. Just because someone should have the self-confidence to “own” what they wear, does not mean that they do have that self-confidence. And to assume that someone has that self-confidence and put that person in a situation where they could possibily feel uncomfortable or embarrassed is unkind and lacks decorum. 

Post # 180
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@Birdi:  because “what if” they actually dont’ love it, and had to settle for that, or wait 5 years for their SO to afford a diamond. it’s the same as scoffing at the size of someone’s “small” ring. if you don’t know, don’t assume, because you could inadvertantly embarrass them with a tactless comment.

 

Post # 181
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

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@claireos:  Not everyone has a choice when it comes to their engagement ring. Some people have to accept whatever they are given because of finances or circumstance or because they don’t want to hurt their fiance’s feelings, but are so proud of being engaged to the person that they love that they want to wear the ring because of the sentiment behind it, not because it’s the ring that they love or would have chosen for themselves. 

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