(Closed) Does anyone ever feel guilty about their wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh, I don’t you should feel guilty at all.  My parents are divorced and I know they aren’t looking forward to being together for the wedding at all.  But, I know that everyone is always happy for the bride and I bet they wouldn’t want you feeling this way.

Is there anyway you could talk to them, maybe alone or in a small group and let them know how you’re feeling?  Don’t focus on what they are doing (while talking!) but tell them how hard this has been and you want everyone happy.   

If sounds like it came out wrong the other time, and if you have had a chance to think more, it may go easier.   You’ll feel better as everything comes up if it’s out. 

Post # 4
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I do, b/c my Future Father-In-Law makes me feel guilty that we’re spending $$$ on a wedding when he thinks we can go to city hall and get married.  It’s my fault that his SON doesn’t want to do that. 

Post # 5
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4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel guilty that I have a Destination Wedding and my friends have to spend about 1000 just to get there :(.  I also feel bad for all the money its costing.  Not the same thing, but yes I feel guilty.

Post # 6
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3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel guilty about how expensive it is becoming. I never intended to have a 10 or 15 K wedding! I wish I could take some things back and start over, much cheaper. But, you shouldn’t feel guilt about you wedding at all! So their marriage didn’t work out. It isn’t fun but it happens. You have a chance to show that marriage CAN work if you find the right person for you. Enjoy every bit of it! Because this could (and hopefully will be) your only wedding!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I do feel guilty about how expensive certain aspects of my wedding were. My parents are too generous with me sometimes and I definitely got swept away with things like expensive invitations and decor upgrades. My dress was expensive but I don’t regret that for one nanosecond, I think every bride should get the dress of her dreams if at all possible. Sometimes I wish we had done something smaller and more low key, but it is a struggle ultimately since our parents were the ones who wanted to throw a big wedding. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with family guilt trips. They are the worst!! All you can do is know that YOU are doing the best you can to be thoughtful, kind, and fair.  If they take offense to the way you do that, that’s THEIR problem.

I feel guilty about the money we’re spending.  $12,000 seems like an insane amount to spend on a single day, especially when we’re both uncertain about the future.  It’s our parents’ money and they really want to spend it on this wedding, but that doesn’t make me feel less guilty about it.

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