(Closed) Does anyone feel bad about how much BM dresses cost?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Jcrew has some pretty amazing dresses!  I feel like there’s been a lot of posts lately about Bee’s amazing Bridesmaid or Best Man dress finds!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes! Which is why I based my search off of price. I found some that were $100 and I had a 20% discount. They weren’t as cheap as I still would have liked but much cheaper than my girls expected to have to pay. One girl set aside $300!!! Now she can spend the rest of hair or make-up if she wants.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes! Which is why I offered to pay for half. Thank goodness I only have 2 girls… ugh! Hopefully they can find something locally without the “bridesmaid” label, that’s just as nice. 

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Before shopping, I decided what price point I’d be looking for (under $200), and then just kind of looked until I found what I wanted.  I purchased the dresses through the same salon where I got my dress, so my girls enjoyed a 15% discount, which was nice.  Still, a good amount of guilt tagging along with it all!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@.twist.:  That is SUPER nice!  I was going to pay 1/2 if they couldn’t pay in full because if they paid in full, they’d receive a 20% discount!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@M.Ruder: haha thanks. My conscious is happier, but my wallet is totally not! 20% off is a pretty good deal!! 🙂 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ugh! double post.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea, I really feel bad about the dresses. Mine were $140 I think, from Alfred Angelo. I was looking for a certain fuchsia color, so it worked out nicely. And the bridal shop gave my Maid/Matron of Honor a free dress (which she needed b/c she wouldn’t have been able to be in the wedding if not). Anyway, I LOVE Delia’s and I was looking on there today to find more clothes. I saw a lot of dresses that I would like my BMs to wear. They are expensive for me ($80) but cheap for the wedding world. They’re probably short though. You could go on a website like that if your girls don’t wear big sizes, I’m not sure how big they make their dresses.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, I too feel bad. After being a Bridesmaid or Best Man in other weddings I know how fast the amount can add up when you consider buying a dress, matching shoes, hair, possibly makeup, lodging, travel, and all the gifts for the bride. I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I’m on the hunt for cheap Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She told me not to worry b/c she knows what she signed up for and we should try to make my day special (love her!). I guess I have to remember that all my BM’s assume they will be contributing “x” amount of money to be in my weddding. I have been in two of my BM’s weddings and paid for everything, which is what I expected when I accepted their invitation to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I guess the costs are now negated since they are in my wedding now.

I do have to say I’m still considering paying for half of their dresses ( I have 6 BM’s), not requiring matching shoes, and also paying for their hair! My situation may be different b/c my entire wedding party is traveling a long distance to be in my wedding and they also need to pay for lodging. Decisions, decisions!

@ HoneyBear: I’ve heard Netbride.com and weddingshoppeinc.com- bridesmaid dresses are good places to buy discount dresses online. Several of the designers on Weddinshoppeinc even list their prices (not sure how much cheaper they are compared to buying at a bridal shop) and they seem really resonable. I found Bill Levkoff dresses for $120 on this website. I haven’t ordered through these websites before, but they may be worth checking out!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I felt awful too! I wanted to just buy something online or at a department store, but none of the girls wanted to chance ordering online, and department stores wouldn’t really work either since everyone is so scattered.

Honeybear: if you want to keep looking at ModCloth, there is a link you can click that shows you longer length dresses. I looked there until my BMs told me not to :/. Also, David’s Bridal really does have nice dresses for BMs. I’ve gotten a couple from there, and I haven’t had any problems with them.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My dresses are also EXPENSIVE but I don’t feel bad about them for a few reasons

1. I am paying for part of every girls dress (about $50.00) to get them into the “reasonable” range of $150 per girl

2. I picked the dresses WAY in advance so the girls would have time both to budget and also to look for a sale/outlet version.

3. All of the girls told me that they consider it a better value to have a $200 dress that they will wear again (it’s Navy blue silk….plenty of opportunities) than to have a $100 dress that they want to throw out or burn afterward.

They’re your dear friends…they *will* tell you if it’s too expensive

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I picked dresses that were $89 but the shipping is fairly hefty, driving the price up to closer to $120. I bought my sister’s since she is coming to the wedding from DC. I am not buying the other bridesmaid’s, because she lives in Savannah and so the $120 is not an additional expense on top of traveling like my sister would have had. I tried to find a decently priced dress and gave her PLENTY of time to order it (wedding is in August and I picked them out in January) so the $120 shouldn’t be too much of a strain. But I definitely was conscious of not choosing a dress that was crazy expensive. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I would seriously check out J.Crew because they have some super cute dresses and if you hit the site at the right time you can get them on sale!

Check out my post from yesterday about my experience! I hope this helps!

 

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