(Closed) Does anyone feel less engaged with gemstones?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

No one misinterpreted my sapphire e-ring as a regular ring. And I definitely didn’t feel “less engaged.” 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Idiots. Don’t mind the short sightedness of some people. If you love it and feel enaged thats all that matters!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Umm… what? No.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I would have a hard time not responding, to those critical people, using language they wouldn’t want to hear. How ridiculous!

I got engaged with no ring; we were poor college students. And we’re still happily married, almost 40 years later.

A few weeks after the proposal, my grandmother gave one of her rings to my fiance, to give to me. It cost maybe $25, to have it sized to fit me. I’ve never had it reset or upgraded; it’s not important to me. What’s important is that it was given with love, 3 times – the first time by my grandfather.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I never had an engagement ring at all for my first marriage.  I managed to plan a wedding, write my vows, and participate in a ceremony all without the benefit of a ring of any sort on my finger.  Engagement rings are meant to be a gift from the person you love, that is all. Engagement rings and wedding bands are symbols of your relationship, not the definition of them.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

My ering doesn’t have a center stone at all. My parents decided to buy a washer/dryer instead of an ering and they are making 34 years in October.

You don’t need a diamond. You don’t need a ring. All you need is two people to decide that they want to get married to be engaged.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

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cjousnamer:  you can be engaged with a gemstone ring, a pull-tab ring from a can, a rubber band, a tattoo, or no ring at all. You can thank De Beers for what’s being parroted about diamonds. The whole “tradition” thing was made-up to market their commodity . . . an overpriced piece of carbon. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Sassafraz in Toronto, Ontario

I used to feel like a ring made it official, because he used to ask me all the time and I was sure he was just joking. Our eventual real proposal was actually a discussion with no ring, but I knew he was being serious which was good enough for me.

 

To me, it didn’t matter what the ring was, it was more that he had planned the proposal and it wasn’t just an off the cuff joke. So no,a gemstone ring doesn’t make you less engaged, neither does no ring. It’s down to personal choice. 

 

I did wear a stand in until my “real” (mossy) ring did come in because it was an important symbol to me. But it could have been a rubber gasket for all I cared.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

 

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quantumleap48:  I am in awe of De Beers marketing department during and after WWII. For them to have conditioned multiple generations to pay so much money for a stone that isn’t rare AT ALL is a huge accomplishment.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

Before I got engaged I wore a toe ring on my ring finger, the word love was printed on it and I said I’d never take it off until I got engaged and that’s what I did, nobody had to wonder and I didn’t feel less engaged, my amethyst is the perfect e-ring for me.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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cjousnamer:  I knew someone with a beautiful sapphire ring as her engagement ring. Trust me…everyone knew what that ring meant and everyone complimented on her ring. I don’t know anyone in real life who would question a non-diamond engagement ring. 

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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dojx:  You made me think of this. Pretty sure people still accepted their engagement and didn’t make such silly comments of it just being a gemstone sapphire

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

hell no, diamonds are just a modern trend… TRADITIONAL stone vary due to location but where always gem stones (sometimes set with small diamonds but nothing like modern diamond rings) just look at most vintage rings

sapphires where common here, my parents and grandparents had them and so do I tbh a large diamond would feel less real to me as its just a recent fad with no real reason

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