(Closed) Does anyone feel less engaged with gemstones?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

That is ridiculous.

I did not even have an engagement ring and I felt no less engaged. I guess it must of not been a real engagement though, despite being married three months later. /s

My original wedding ring used a small blue sapphire centre stone. Sapphires are quite “traditional” in my own family back a few generations. I felt no less married than I do now that I wear a diamond.

The rings to me are just a symbol, they are not THE commitment. I can switch it up everyday, or wear no ring at all, and the commitment remains.

Post # 17
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

Mines an emerald and no one asks either way. My engagement is not based on what’s on my finger but our relationship. People know we’re committed to each other.  

Post # 18
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

thats really silly. I assume any fine ring on that finger to be an engagement ring regardless of the stone. A big cocktail or fashion ring though, I would think is for style.

Post # 20
1037 posts
Bumble bee

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cjousnamer:  I think it’s more likely that people just don’t think before they speak.

People used to ask if my RHR (which is a garnet) was an engagement ring… and it’s not even big or blingy. 


Post # 21
48 posts

I don’t know anyone who would be rude enough to say those things to me! How hard those individuals have fallen for De Beers’ marketing scam. It’s fine if they like diamonds, but to base the legitimacy of your engagement/marriage on it is so completely insulting, don’t you think?

Post # 22
71 posts
Worker bee

Honestly my man could pull a Wade Wilson and propose with a ring pop. It doesn’t matter. What matters is the commitment and love between the 2 of you. If anyone has anything negative to say about that they can p!ss off. In fact my boyfriend and I have talked extensively about getting married. It’s not official but I have a couple loose moissy’s I’ve found that I’m trying to decide between as a center stone for my ring. I’ll give the stone to him and tell him to use it for my e-ring. We’re poor students and diamonds mean nothing to me anyway.


ETA funny story. When I was a teenager working as a cashier, I had a big sparkly frog ring on my left hand one day (cause I play with my rings and sometimes slip them on the wrong finger when I’m not paying attention). An older lady asked me if that was an engagement ring and a mother pointed it out to her daughter and said “look! She must be a princess and is married to a prince!” Meanwhile, I was thinking “honey, if I were a princess I darn sure wouldn’t be here ringing up your craft supplies.”

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by rusty15.
Post # 23
3075 posts
Sugar bee

If someone is a jerk make a mental note that they will not make the invite list. Your ring is stunning. 

Post # 24
9 posts
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was looking at a color change sapphire as my engagement ring. I went the traditional route and did the diamond. It shouldn’t matter what is on your finger. Nor the wedding. It is all about the marriage! 

Post # 25
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I feel engaged because my fiancé and I decided to get married. The sparkly sapphire on my finger is just a bonus 😉

Post # 26
1453 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Historically, colores gemstones were what was used for engagements. Diamonds are a more modern engagement stone. I ended up with a family ring. I didn’t really want an enagrment ring, but if I hadn’t ended up with the family ring and had picked an ering or other ring, it would have been a sapphire, tourmaline, or spinel.

rock your ring!

Post # 27
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

The BOTTUM line is (in the US) if someone is wearing any ring on their left hand I assume they are married/engaged.

so questions are just haters being haters and you just have to smile and keep moving .


Post # 28
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

My SO’s mom has a blue sapphire ring and I’ve never considered her NOT married… Marriage is when you sign a piece of paper together and commit your lives to each other, not when you have a ring on your finger, of any material. I think whether the receiver loves it is WAY more important than what it’s made of.

Post # 29
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Asshats. The ring has no bearing on whether you’re engaged or not. No ring, ringpop, piece of string, no stone, gemstone, diamond, whatever, you’re engaged if you’ve agreed to get married.

Post # 30
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Whether it’s a color gemstone ring, plain band, or no ring at all, that doesn’t speak to being engaged or not. One of my friend’s recently got married and when he proposed, she was given a plain gold band. They were still engaged, even though she didn’t have a sparkly gemstone on her finger. Sometimes we get too caught up in materialism. There are people walking around with huge diamonds but in miserable marriages. The ring doesn’t make the marriage.

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