(Closed) Does anyone feel less engaged with gemstones?

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Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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Post # 62
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Worker bee

I adore my light-blue-green sapphire engagement ring. Granted it has a diamond halo and diamonds tapering down the band, so it has a distinct “engagement” feel. But I get compliments often and no one ever needs to clarify if it’s just a “normal” ring. Plus on a practical note since the sapphire was cheaper my fiancé was able to afford a bigger stone! And we had done a lot of exploring at different stores without feeling excited about one ring after another looking so similar. In the end we designed the ring together and it was a wonderful experience. I’m sure some people have opinions that they keep to themselves…but it’s perfect for us and represents our relationship and commitment in a way that’s true to us, and that’s what matters.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

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cjousnamer:  i think the reactions you’re experiencing might be size-related. 3 carats of *any* stone is really big, and you have a very small finger to boot. while erings come in all sorts of sizes, shapes, and colors – i “typically” think of erings as under 2 carats – larger than that, and then the ring starts to look more like a cocktail ring than an ering to me. is this silly? yes, of course. but that’s sort of the archtype of ering that i have in my mind, and a lot of other people might have the same sort of reactions in terms of size. not only is it a gemstone, but it’s also very large – the combination of the two might have people questioning if it’s an ering or a cocktail ring.

that said, don’t let other people influence how you feel! rock your ring and love it 🙂

Post # 64
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Blushing bee

Man kudos to whoever came up with the marketing campaign that made diamonds represent the size of your love. 

I have a lab created gem and proud of it!

Post # 65
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Blushing bee

diamonds dont mean your engaged… having LOVE does! pick your unique gem/stone/whatever and be proud! you are lucky and rare to find true love. i got my new moissanite ring today and i love it… i had a diamond before but… we moved on to the moissanite for the freedom it gave us to deisgn the ring we wanted!

Post # 66
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

No, but it made me feel less faith in humanity. I got so many asinine comments. SO MANY OF THEM. 

Post # 67
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Worker bee

How rude of anyone to ask those questions and make mean comments! They are clearly ignorant because gemstones are more traditional. Also, if it is good enough for the Princess of Whales and the Dutchess of Cambridge, its good enough for anyone!

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I was engaged for 10 months before I had a ring. My parents never even had an e-ring and they’ve been married 28 years. You’re engaged when you agree to get married, regardless of jewellery.

Post # 69
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Haven\'t gotten that far

No way!!!  I told my fiance I wanted a morganite ring and I havent regreted it since.  I get so many compliments on it.

 

Here is the shop that he bought it from.  He said it was an awesome experience.

 

https://www.etsy.com/shop/LaMoreDesign?ref=l2-shopheader-name

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Nope. I stopped even wearing my ring most days because at work I wear gloves constantly and it doesn’t mesh well. I still feel the same amount of engaged with no ring as I do with a gemstone ring.

When I was testing it out at work (to see if it’d be fine with gloves), I think I had one coworker actually see that I was wearing a ring and they instantly wanted to know if I was engaged. Others, once they heard me say the word “fiance” in reference while talking, they would quickly glance down at my hand and compliment my ring. I think most people don’t notice rings in real life at least for my experience. I know I don’t really glance at others hands very often. I had one coworker tell me she wished she had a gemstone engagement ring but they used a heirloom diamond ring from her family.

Some people like to project their own preferences. I would just kindly educate them by saying even no ring at all wouldn’t make me less engaged. Or find some really snarky come back because it would be funny.

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

There has been a massive shift towards diamond only engagement rings in the UK in the last 25 years, but before then coloured gemstone and diamond rings were by far the most common. All my friend’s mothers either wore a plain wedding band (so I never saw their e-ring) or a sapphire, emerald or ruby ring with diamonds either in a halo or as side stones. Trilogy rings were probably the most common, with either a diamond centre stone flanked by two coloured gemsrones or the other way round.

Of the Queen’s four children, only one chose an all   diamond engagement ring, nobody was surprised. It was typical of the population at large. 

I grew up hoping I’d have a sapphire (diamond) ring and I did, for my first marriage I had a pale ceylon oval sapphire with a diamond halo. It wasn’t very expensive but my husband was a commercial barrister so we were soon mixing with very wealthy people, I can’t ever remember thinking my ring looked out of place. We divorced and on my 40th, my mum gave me her diamond and sapphire trilogy ring which I wear daily. It seemed natural for my 2nd husband to buy a ring that wasn’t similar and he loves solitaires so that’s what he bought. He turned me around as when we first met, I thought they were boring!

 

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My mum (and paternal grandma’s) engagement ring. Grandpa was wealthy and from a wealthy family, he was also keen on the good things in life so he wouldn’t have bought a ring he perceived to be “second class”. The sapphire is very dark and photographs darker but it’s untreated which is unusual.

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Post # 73
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - The Secret Garden

I have a sapphire e-ring, and I don’t feel any less engaged. In fact, my fiance and I picked out the ring together. Sapphire was perfect for me for many different reasons. I’ve always absolutely loved the color blue  my fiance and I became official in September of 2008, and the sapphire represents important qualities needed within a relationship, such as fidelity and sincerity. Here’s a pic, because who doesn’t love a little ring porn? ☺

 

Post # 74
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - The Secret Garden

 

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alou:  My sapphire is lab-created as well. Hell, I picked it out, and we got it for less than $300.

Post # 75
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Helper bee

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lissette414:  Love the colour! 

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