(Closed) Does anyone feel less engaged with gemstones?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
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Helper bee

I don’t have a gemstone engagement ring but this is so ridiculous and shallow. If a diamond is what makes someone feel more engaged/married, they’re probably not building their marriage on a very solid basis. 

Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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Drizzle:  ‘there has been a massive shift to diamond rings her in the UK in the last 25 years’ – im not sure thats true… I hardly know anyone with a diamond ring and certainly no diamond solitares styles (the only all diamond ring I know is a cluster) coloured stones are still the most popular option ive encountered and thats going across all generations from my great-great-grandparents through to my teenage/early 20s work collegues

Post # 78
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Helper bee

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btob17:  Opposite over here. From Sydney, Australia. I hardly know anyone with a gem e-ring. All the women I’m associated with have diamond e-rings!! Obsessed with the 4C’s! Sooooo common.

Hence why I’ve decided on a gem (garnet, tourmaline or morganite) 😊

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

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cjousnamer:  

You’re engaged when you officially decide that you will be getting married. You don’t need a ring at all, let alone a specific type of ring to mark your engagement.

You need to steer away from people who make catty, passive aggressive comments like those!

Post # 80
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - The Secret Garden

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anonp:  Thank you! Me too!

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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btob17:  I kinda agree with Drizzle that the older generation have gemstone rings (namely rubies, sapphires or emeralds) but the women in my circle that are in their twenties and thirties are getting engaged with a solitaire. I don’t see solitaries in the high street stores in the UK but people must be finding them as it’s definitely the most popular choice that I’m noticing. 

Post # 83
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Insignia Steakhouse

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cjousnamer:  Girl, dont let haters hate. My fiancé and I booked our venue before I had a ring And his cousin said ‘until I see a ring on your finger, I’m not putting anything in my calendar.’ 

People can be petty and rude and jealous. All that matters is that you’re in love and happy with each other. Forget everyone else. 

Post # 84
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Bumble bee

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cjousnamer:  Well I’m sarcastic and kinda bitchy, so I’d probably be sarcastic and bitchy to them, but often the best way to deal with stuff like that is to call them out for being rude. Like “Wow, do you not realize how rude that was? Why would you say that?”. Although tbh I’d probably flat-out say like “Gurl nobody cares about your opinion”

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My ring is just white gold. It’s a squirrel and wolf nuzzling. I work in Finance, so I do feel judged quite often. I don’t let it bother me. A ring should symbolize your relationship. In Brian and my case, we aren’t traditional people. We like fun, creative things. We’re hippies. Given the diamond industry labor issues, I wouldn’t want a diamond on my finger. 🙂 

Post # 86
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

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stefzbee:  thank you! I’m so ridiculously excited I don’t even know what to do with myself. Have a great weekend!

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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cjousnamer:  I have a few different sets. All different sizes ect. No one has ever asked if I feel more or less engaged.

however I have. Had people say my rings are ugly, look like snot, flashy, trashy and gaudy. Shame on them haha . I love my rocks androcking them.

also I good response would be ” well I could ask you that because after all a diamond is a gemstone, you know ????!!! (smile sweetly)

or ‘ I love my Engagement ring as it shows personality and is unique to my Fiance and I, thanks for noticing it ( smile sweetly)

 

Post # 88
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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squirrelly1982:  I wanna see your ring, it sounds so amazing and cute

Post # 89
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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cjousnamer:  oye. if you’ve made an agreement to get married then you are engaged – diamond ring, ring pop, or no ring at all. and if you’ve said vows and filed a marriage license then you’re married. Sometimes I forget to wear my rings but that doesn’t render our marriage temporarily invalid until I remember to put them back on! 

Post # 90
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

People can be engaged/married WITHOUT a ring at all. Whoever says you are less married because you have a gemstone ring clearly doesn’t understand what marriage is in the first place. 

Also, diamonds came second. People use to only have colored gemstones as engagement rings.

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