(Closed) Does anyone feel less engaged with gemstones?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 91
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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ladycirtolthiel:  what of going round engaged without a ring? Is the result also prison?

bees with gemstones either scatter or rise up against law. Haha

Post # 92
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Busy bee

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misskate18:  Amen to that! I too was engaged 7 months before getting a ring (he proposed with a plain gold band). And my folks only wear plain bands. 

I love my sapphire ring. No one has ever said anything this stupid to me. I don’t think I would respond politely. However, I do get asked (often!)  “is that a vintage ring” – the answer is no, Darling Husband had it custom made, and I think it looks very mod and new. Not sure if that’s a normal question for sapphires?

Post # 93
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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robsbeach:  So true! I always thought rubies and sapphires were the valued stones of choice (especially for royalty). Diamonds are very new as far as being used for e-rings. 

Post # 94
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Buzzing bee

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cjousnamer:  When you get those types of questions, it’s usually a good response to raise one eyebrow and say “Of course I’m engaged. What a strange and rude question!” And then walk away.

Post # 95
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Helper bee

Honestly, I didn’t *feel* less engaged, but I certainly didn’t feel like I *looked* engaged (in a traditional sense). I’m a diamond lover, and was proposed to with a gemstone ring. I wore it for the duration of our engagement, but now just wear my wedding band. It’s all a matter of personal preference.

Just know that many people will not connect a gemstone ring with engagement. People did not know I was engaged without my saying it, because my ring didn’t scream, “engaged!”  Not a huge deal, just common and general perception.

Post # 96
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Blushing bee

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lissette414:  that cost $300!!! wow!!!! looks worth a million bucks. gorgeous

Post # 97
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Bumble bee

I felt totally engaged with my red garnet ring. Hwvr, I wasn’t prepared for the bold rudeness of some ppl & their comments/questions.  A couple of them even refused to believe that it was my choice.  Just block out the idiots and if you’re thinking on your feet, zing ’em back/set them straight.

Above all, enjoy your engagements and lovely rings!

 

Post # 98
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Yes. I completely feel less engaged with the beautiful emerald I wanted and without the diamond that the marketing guys at De Beers tell me I must have. Obviously people whose diamonds cost less than 3 months salary are similarly “less engaged.”

What a load of BS.

Post # 99
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Blushing bee

I LOVE gemstones. Color, color, color is for me. My fi wanted to get a diamond because he wanted to be traditional, but he has given me gemstone rings on various special occasions that I switch out depending on the season, my mood, outfit color etc. Maybe I’m weird but I like the variety. Nobody has ever questioned whether I am married, all of my rings seem to get the point across equally.

Post # 100
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - The Secret Garden

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alou:  Yup! Just under $280 actually. Was originally $865, but we got it at a Zales outlet on clearance for 70% off plus an additional 20% off. We also got the lifetime warranty included in that price.

Post # 101
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Busy bee

My local tradition is to wear a simple gold band (without stones) as an engagement ring. For what it’s worth, my parents had been marriedd for 25 years by the time my dad bought my mum her first diamond ring.

 

When we got engaged, we designed my engagement ring together and I certainly didn’t feel any less engaged for the month it took to get the ring. And I can’t think of anybody that would have mistaken my sapphire ring for anything other than an engagement ring.

Post # 103
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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squirrelly1982:   awww it’s even more cute than I thought it would be , how special. What are you going to do for a wedding band? X

thank you for sharing it . Xx:-)

Post # 104
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion

I don’t feel “less engaged” with my sapphire ring but it also has a very bridal look, IMO. Depending on the style of the ring or the color of the gemstone, I would definitely be more inclined to ask someone whether or not it was an engagement ring, but I wouldn’t consider someone “less” engaged if their ring was a gemstone, no matter what it looked like.

Post # 105
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

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My ring is a $80 CZ stainless steel from Sears, and cost us $20 on sale! Our life right now is on saving mode (recent college graduate, moving to another state, new job on that state, relocating to parent’s house while he gets a job in the same state to save money for moving out) but we still wanted to officially commit to one another publically with a symbol. He insist on a “better” one when we’re more financially able, but to be honest if that never happens, I won’t feel any less engaged. It’s the fact that he got on his knee and asked me to marry him, and it helps that it actually LOOKS like an e-ring lol

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