(Closed) Does anyone feel like I do?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We do! Unfortunately my parents are long gone, which is why I adore my FILs.

Strangely enough, we are not being asked for a lot of details. Maybe you could tell them that you got it covered and they can enjoy the fruits of your planning on your wedding day. You are adults and apparently paying for the wedding. That means YOU get to call the shots.

As much as I loves my FILs, I certainly am not sharing most of the wedding details with them.

Post # 4
Member
571 posts
Busy bee

I know exactly how you feel, my In-Laws decided a lot of my wedding (especially guestlist) but in the end they also paid a lot for us! However, I agree if you pay yourself they should not interfere with you! Every detail was also an issue here, especially who sits where, next to who, the parent dance drama (I really don’t want one even though my parents are attending and not divorced-I just think it is strange and cheesy) and so on and on. And especially when you mention kids I get scared! I don’t have any kids yet, but i know exactly that my in-laws will want to tell me stuff about how to raise them (they have a different religion than I do for example) and it already annoys me now! My FMIL used to be kindergarten teacher, but she totally failed in teaching her kids manners or rules! My fiance told me that as a kid he used to drink up to 8 (!!!!) sodas a day (I think that is why he is still hyperactive now) and his brother NEVER flushes the toilet at 26 years old. (And I mean never- no matter what he left behind!!!) Sorry For the long response but if i think about how they would spoil and raise my kids and had the nerve to tell me about what to do-Makes me soooo mad!!!! Argh!!!! Anyway, keep your foot down! It will pass, my wedding is in less than 3 weeks and I also felt like giving up and was extremely annoyed by the advice, but you just gotta stick with what YOU envision. One thing I could advice: Ask them how involved THEIR parents or in-laws were, and if they were fine with that at their own wedding!!!

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