The thing is that there are a lot of brides who are becoming more and more creative with their engagement photos and wedding photos. She was wanting to know if we were going to be creative, our engagement photos turned out fine but they looked like everyone else’s – holding hands, hugging, looking in eachother’s eyes, sitting on a bench, walking hand in hand, etc. I just wish I had thought to be more creative with it! One of her couples set up a little camp-site, and cooked s’mores together over a little campfire, another had a picnic and that’s why she asked, obviously she chose the angle, she chose the moment and she took the photo but they also had a part in how it was staged.
Yes we’re paying a lot less than what most people are because we booked her when she was first starting out and photography is her second job (she’s a teacher during the week). My photographer has been featured on the wedding blog and wedding magazine for my state so she’s definitely got some talent. I would never make a list of all the tiny details of what I want her to photograph, she knows I want a picture of our first dance, our cake, etc. (agreed that the list above is somewhat excessive) but like I said, brides have become much more creative and want their weddings (and photographs) to reflect their personalities and I don’t see a problem with that.
I understand that photography is an artistic endeavour, Fiance is finishing up his BFA at the moment but he is still critiqued, if someone commissions him for a painting they tell him how they want to be posed, I don’t understand why it’s such a bad thing to say “Hey, what if we tried to recreate ____ photo by doing it _____ way” all professionals get critiques at some point in their careers and what’s the harm in making a suggestion? I trust that no matter what my photos will come out beautiful because she is good at what she does, but if I spent 4 weeks DIY’g things for my wedding you better believe I’m going to ask her to make sure and take a photo because everyone has slip ups sometimes and she’s only human.
That being said, the girl I mentioned above was a brand new photographer (not mine but the one who forgot photos of bride + mom, she also touched up a photo where someone’s eyes were closed instead of choosing the one in which everyone had their eyes open) was not a professional, she was new to it and the bride was trying to get the best deal possible. I don’t see anything wrong with that and for those people you need a list of the details because they don’t really know what they’re doing. People shouldn’t be made to feel bad if their photographer asks for a list because they might just be starting out, every budget is different.
Sorry this is long, I don’t mean to insult anyone and I know that it’s easy for tones/feelings to be misconstrued. I agree that your photographer is above all-else a professional and you just have to trust them but if they ask you for a list of photos you would like I don’t think you should be afraid to say “hey can you make sure and get a picture of ____ I spent a lot of time on it and just want to make sure I have one for memory.” Even if it’s something silly they would have taken a photo of anyway, there’s no reason for the photographer to be upset you asked. They should understand it’s one of the most important days of your life and not about them and it doesn’t reflect how you feel about their abilities some people (like myself) are habitual worriers who tend to worry about little things. If the photographer doesn’t like how the photos turn out then they just won’t keep them in their portfolio, they’ll still get paid either way.