Post # 1
I’m in a very anxious part of my life (about to leave my job and move 4.5 hours’ drive away to somewhere I don’t know anyone, away from my family, with no job to go to) and I’ve found that recently my anxiety has ‘latched on’ to my previously habituated tinnitus and now I’m majorly stressing over it.
I was totally habituated, had lived with it zero problems for about 5 years. It might be worth noting that before this current ‘spike’, my anxiety would ‘latch on’ to other things: for example, for a time I was completely obsessed by the fact that ‘if I was engaged, everything would be better’ (I’m waiting currently). Other times, I’ve found things out from the past and totally got fixated on them and had a major panic attack/meltdown. In short I think I’ve been in a state of anxiety for a while now (which I know is a separate issue), and also I do know that anxiety and stress can have a hugely negative effect on being able to cope with tinnitus.
Does anyone have any tips on how to calm the f down and stop focusing on this? I’m hoping that I can throw myself into my new life and join lots of social clubs etc to keep busy… At the moment, while I live closer to my family I work a boring job, commute, and live in a small town without a lot going on. I don’t see girlfriends very often and feel overly dependent on my boyfriend. I love him so much, but I am scared that he will start to see me as a liability 🙁
Post # 2
Ooooooh the latching… you work through one thing and then it’s right on to the next!
I’m sorry bee ☹️ Have you ever been in treatment for your anxiety ? In recent years, when my anxiety is heightened, I get obsessive thoughts of pregnancy. I’m either convinced that I am pregnant, or more recently, an intense bout of baby fever that thankfully only lasted a day.
The good thing is that you KNOW it’s latching to different things, that means you have a lot of insight into your anxiety. As for calming down, do anything that you find relaxing. Do lots of self care, and lots of self talk: “my ears have been ringing for years, I know this isn’t a major issue, this is my anxiety talking, this is not reality”
Also practice deep breathing. Deep, long breaths in through your nose , then slowly exhale from your mouth. The deep breathing slows your heart and your body down and it can help you relax.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I use a technique called “grounding.” It essentially distracts your brain long enough to pull it out of the anxious cycle. When you recognize the anxiety creeping in, you find 5 things you can see and name them, then 4 things you can feel/touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. Sometimes if I’m having a really rough day I’ll purposely take my time with it and dedicate 5-7 minutes to distinguishing things I can sense, or if I’m busy sometimes I’ll just take 30 seconds and run through the list more quickly. Either way, I find it’s very helpful.
Another interesting one is that when your anxiety crops up, your hands actually get colder. It’s a physiological thing. So if you can mentally envision something warming your hands, it helps to combat the symptoms and can help to break the cycle. For example, I envision wrapping my hands around a warm mug of tea, or holding hands with my FH (his hands are always wicked hot – we call him the “blast furnace” lol).
Maybe experiment with those for a few weeks? Hope that helps!
Post # 4
I get anxiety too. I feel your pain. I dont have tinnitus but I do get vertigo from my ears. I latch on to that and other physical things and then I talk myself out of it just to latch onto something again a few days later. I also went through huge change and emotional upheaval about 5 years ago, then I had 2 kids. I am now going through the terminal illness of a loved one plus some other things. It’s ok to recognize you are in a stressful period of your life. Try and be kind to yourself and know you are not alone. There are so many of us that struggle with anxiety, GAD and health anxieties.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
sep88 : I have tinnitus in my right ear and have had it for over 4 years now I think. Ugh. I got it from a really bad season of allergies. The only thing that has helped lessen it is drops by Newton RX. It’s only $22 and lasts awhile but you have to consistently take it.
Post # 6
Thanks all for the responses. I also think maybe it is relevant that I came off the pill 4 weeks ago and have yet to have my period so perhaps I am super hormonal. Also I am really tense in my upper back and shoulders so have booked a deep tissue massage for tomorrow.
I don’t know where we’re living yet because of various reasons so that is undoubtedly stressing me out.
I did go to a club a week or ago, but only for about an hour and I wore my custom 27DB attenunating earplugs. I was a bit worried I might have done further damage to my ears and I guess in my already anxious state I’ve ‘latched on’ to this. But I keep trying to remind myself that the day after, I was happily hanging out and having lunch with my bf, 2 days after I was hanging out with my dad, 3 and 4 days later I was at the gym as usual and super relaxed at home – one night my boyfriend cooked me dinner and it was amazing to come home to after the gym. I did not notice my tinnitus AT ALL. However about 6 days after I went out, I was reading the newspaper in our bedroom which was quiet and SUDDENLY I could hear it louder in my right ear and since then I have been an absolute mess. However, I mention anxiety in general because I have been a mess on a number of other occasions before this, having to take time of work because I feel in such a state and wondering if I’d ever feel ok again.
So I guess I’m badly looking to get back to that good feeling I had last week: coming home to my loving boyfriend, relaxing in front of the TV with him, not paying attention to anything bad.
Post # 7
Also I am 100% not pregnant.
Post # 8
sep88 : Can you tell me more about tennitis? I think that’s possible that I have the exact same thing and had no clue what it was called all these years.
Post # 9
Soon2BMrsFredericks : It’s when you hear random sounds, even when in a quiet room. Like ringing or whooshing. I was totally used to it, but now I keep freaking out, just like I did when I first discovered I had it – you know thinking ‘omg this is all I am going to hear forever’. But it didn’t bother me for 5 whole years! In that time a lot happened, good and bad, and I went out with friends (with earplugs) etc and just lived my life. So, I’m MAJORLY stressed to have it bother me again.
Post # 10
I have it in my right ear, and I also have anxiety yayyy. Mine is a whooshing sound. It gets worse when I have bad anxiety but I’ve grown used to it. I’ve had it for 3 years, I was going through a very stressful move at the time and I think the stress triggered it. I’ve also seen doctors about it and they’ve been completely useless and not helpful at all besides “just ignore it”.