Post # 1
Not sure if this is in the right forum. I had a lot of anxiety for some reason about dropping my name and finally took the plunge and took just his name but now I’m wishing I had hyphenated it. Would it be weird to hyphenate it everywhere except on legal documents? My full name now is first-middle-maiden-his with middle and maiden being two middle names but I am wanting it to be first middle maiden-his
This topic was modified 6 years, 2 months ago by kwahom03.
Post # 2
I never regret not hyphenating. That is my least favorite option. I changed to his name and made my maiden name my middle name, but the only 2 options for me were not to change or to take his name and make my maiden name my middle name. I think hyphenating is too much trouble!
Post # 3
In the end I ended up taking his name simply beacuse of it being too much trouble (and the whole what name would our future kids have) but I don’t know why I am so reluctant to take it..I still write and say my maiden when I can.
Post # 4
i am definitely hyphenating my name and couldnt imagine it any other way!!
Post # 5
I wish it were standard to hyphenate, just because you are marrying into his family and becoming his wife does not mean you are leaving yours! You are two families now (and should have the two names to proove it!)
BUT at the same time, it is the culture and the standard to do drop the maiden name and usually put it as your middle.
Like OP, I am planning on having mine as First Middle Maiden His, but I have heard that you can’t just change your middle name at the DPS (like changing your last), you have to go to the court house to submit for an official change of name. AND on most forms you can only put one middle name, so most times it’s pointless to have two, so one becomes primary. I don’t know…
Post # 6
I don’t need a 6 syllable last name, so, no, not hypehnating
Post # 7
i must have gotten lucky then and had a super nice person.. when we went to the SSA turns out my middle name was legally just a letter (not the full name) and she added two middle names in for me. hopefully you get as lucky? I feel the same way though about still being a part of two families, almost like i’m losing my independence!
Post # 8
that is a mouthful 🙂 mine hyphenated would be 5.. the full four names is 10!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I took his last name & while I don’t regret it, I do wish I would have dropped my current middle name & replaced it with my maiden name!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain
I can’t imagine not hyphenating. He is hyphenating as well so our future kids will have the same last name as both of us. Our last name will be 21 characters including the hyphen but I’m not too worried about it. You could refer to yourself as Sue A Smith Jones which would work instead of hyphenating
Post # 11
I won’t hyphenate my name as it’s already long. Our kids are going to end up having four middle names anyways (3 different cultures), and if I had a hyphenated name I would also want them to have one too. But then they would have six names, which isn’t ideal.
I also have no middle name so I plan on making my maiden name my middle name, or creating a new middle name entirely.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Our names sound really weird hyphenated together, so I just went with his.
Post # 13
I’m actually not taking my FI’s last name because I don’t want to deal with the paper work of changing my last name. My FI’s last name is already hyphenated as well and he has told me how troublesome it is sometimes when it comes to filling out paperwork.
Post # 14
If I hyphenated, my name would be Tara Abcdefghijk-Lmnopqrstuv. My maiden name is 11 letters long and a big challenge for people to pronounce. I was very ready to change. My new one is 10 letters, but phonetic.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
I am taking FIs last name. I’m one of those traditional old bats who thinks it’s ‘proper’ albeit not for everyone. But I like being ‘his’