Does anyone know anyone who conceived accidently or on purpose in their….

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

We’re in the process of trying to conceive our first child and I am 40. I am also in a lot of support groups on facebook of women over 40 trying to conceive. So if you’re looking for a little support you may want to join one of those groups. I’m inspired everday by the number of women who are over 40 and conceiving naturally. My great aunt was 47 when she conceived her last child. I had a church member that was 46 and my pastors wife was 42 when she was pregnant with their last child and they all have had healthy babies. 

Post # 4
6803 posts
Busy Beekeeper

My Mother-In-Law had two in her early 40s, the last of 7 kids, and with a serious heart problem and diabetes. One was born without a heartbeat but successfully resuscitated and is 100% as normal as the rest of them. The youngest had no problem. 

Still, I wouldn’t recommend it. Mine exhausts me at 38 and I’ve been irrationally worried both pregnancies due to age.  The chance of serious disorders skyrockets – I work with a lot of kids whose parents are old… the kids have issues, the parents are worried about their own deaths and who will care for the kids (obviously this can be a problem at any age, just less likely).  Honestly if I had to wait that long, I’d look into adoption instead. 

ETA: adding reading comprehension, congrats on your little! I still wouldn’t but I’m glad it worked out for you!

Post # 5
5387 posts
Bee Keeper

I remember reading some of your posts about TTC and you’re fortunate that you were successful with your son. I think if you’re really into having one more child. You should see your ob gyn or fertility specialist again to have yourself examined and talk one on one. You will always hear someone here or elsewhere telling you of a 46 year old aunt or a 47 year old coworker who got pregnant naturally etc. It goes by individual cases.  

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Post # 7
5481 posts
Bee Keeper

My sister. On purpose or accidental, I was never quite sure and neither was she lol. She had her first children (twins) via IVF.

Post # 8
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

We know quite a few people who had an oops baby in their 40s. That’s not to say that there aren’t planned babies at that age because there certainly are, but with the four couples we know, they just weren’t as careful because they didn’t think they had to be and well… And I don’t mean to be negative, but if you did IVF for your first, you might have to look into that for a second. There are cases where people conceive naturally after IVF, but many couples need IVF for every pregnancy. I think that if you want to and are up for it, there’s not a significant difference between 45 and 46 or 47, though statistically speaking the odds of getting pregnant go down each year. 

As for donor eggs, I suppose that’s possible, but the odds that a 45 year old woman will NOT have a baby with genetic abnormalities is about 97%, and I’d play those odds any day. Yes, the odds of having, say, a baby with Down’s is about 1 in 1200 for a 25 year old woman and about 1 in 35 or so for a 45 year old woman. That’s an “exponential” increase, yes, but it still leaves you with a very high chance of having a perfectly healthy “normal” (I hate that word, but am struggling to find a different one) baby. Good luck!

Post # 9
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Multiple people. Most were trying, at least one was an “oops”. All are just fine (including the “oops” who didn’t make himself known until he was 6 mos in utero after a weekend of heavy drinking- mom thought she was just going through menopause…) 

the oldest couple of our friends who conceived later- they were both 48, and it’s their 4th baby- all were born (except the first) in their 40’s. Good luck!

Post # 10
875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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Prettysmile40 :  A good friend of mines mom had her when she was 44 naturally. So its definitely possible!

Post # 11
2498 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Definitely possible (and i’ve personally known a few FTM’s in their early 40’s), but being that you required IVF for your first child I’d say it’s probably pretty unlikely for you. 

Post # 12
1563 posts
Bumble bee

My grandmother had her first two children in her early twenties, then she fell pregnant accidentally at 41 with my mother. She assumed she was going through menopause and went to the doctor. When he told her she was pregnant by grandfather fainted in the doctor’s office. 

Post # 13
4061 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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littlebuzz :  My brother’s best friend’s parents were the same! She already had 3 daughters, the youngest was 11, and she went to the Dr assuming it was menopause… surprise! 

Also, my aunt started having kids at 42, she has 3 healthy daughters. 

I’m 38 and my kids are 15 and 18, the idea of having babies now makes me want to go take a nap! Best wishes, OP wink

Post # 14
1131 posts
Bumble bee

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Prettysmile40 :  A good friend of mine had a healthy 10 lb. baby boy in her mid 40s. My brother and his wife had their third child in their mid 40s. My niece has Down Syndrome, but thankfully, she was born without health issues. 

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