(Closed) Does anyone make you feel embarrased for 'caring'?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m lucky to work with positive people right now. It’s awesome! But I definitely have been around people like that and it blows. Don’t let them affect you too much! It’s so much better to live life enjoying things!!!

Post # 4
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am not in this type of situation currently, but I know how you feel. You’re not at all immature, or child-like. Optimism is a good trait to have, so dont let them get you down!


If it helps, I used to get yelled at for saying “thank you” too often. “Thank you for dinner” “Thank you for buying me ____.” I was raised right.. soooorrrry! πŸ˜› 


Just keep being fabulous! At least you dont have to be moody like them! πŸ˜€

Post # 5
3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Don’t let them get you down! I am the same way.

What awful, grey lives they must leave where they are “too cool” to be happy for someone else. 

Just keep being you, even though I know it’s hard, because you don’t want them to bring you down. And you never know, you might one day have one of them join you in your happiness. 


Haters gonna Hate.

Post # 6
1115 posts
Bumble bee

@MsGolightly:  You honestly sound like you would be awesome to work with! I can’t stand people who are always negative and act like its the “cool” thing to do. Lighten up already!


@Excited To Bee:  My SOs cousin is like this! I hate going out anywhere with him because he’s always giving me such a hard time about saying please and thank you to people. Ugh. 

Post # 8
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

“Be optimistic, Don’t you be a grumpy, When the road gets bumpy.. Just smile, smile, smile and be happy!…”

Thats all I know. I think its a very good thing to have a positive attitude! Yes, life can be hard, but whats the point of being negative? You rock those rose colored glasses!

Post # 10
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Some people are just programmed to see the negative. I try to see the best in every situation and it can be exhausting and demoralizing when you’re not around that. Try to let it roll off your back. They can think what they would like, but optimism leads to a much happier life than cynicism.

Post # 11
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yep, I get this all the time at work.  Doesn’t bother me personally, but sucks working in a place like that.  It’s worse than working alone, there are people but they don’t act people (if that makes sense lol).  If anything I think it’s sad they can’t find joy from simple things or others’ happiness!

Sometimes my boss just looks at me when I say something like she’s humoring a child, or like she’s irritated occasionally.  Which I think is exactly what you’re describing.  Once she said “You get happy at the little things, I lost that somewhere, so please don’t stop.  I enjoy watching it.”.

The only people at work NOT like her are contracted… like me (temp) for a project or a company that comes to do X job.  They have a lot of these people because they don’t have to pay benefits or ruin the company image lol. 

I’ve worked there 2 years and had a few people ask if I wanted to work for the company.  I’ve said “The company positions don’t really suit my personality or what I feel I am best at, so I don’t think it would be a good long term fit.”.  Which is true but want to say “Not if I have to lose my personality and do things I’m not really suited for even if I am capable.”.  I mean I can clean a toilet but it doesn’t mean I want to.  And I respect the people who clean toilets more!  All the cleaners I’ve know have well rounded personalities.  I leave them “Thank You!” and smilies on sticky notes sometimes in my office :).  Made my day the first time I did and the next day it was on my keyboard with “You’re welcome!”.  Because I know they’re invisible to the people at work.

Sorry for the long post… this exact thing is what I loathe about my job!

Post # 12
4371 posts
Honey bee

In the words of Margaret Atwood (her favorite phrase): Nolite te bastardes carborundum. Don’t let the bastards get you down.

Post # 13
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

You should come work with me.  Serious negativity sometimes. Dh and I work together and he volunteers with big brothers and was saying how his little brother made the school soccer team and one of our coworkers was like “thats such a waste of time. I don’t understand how you get all excited about a kid that’s not even yours”.  And we were just like…. Did you seriously just get called out for volunteering with big brothers!?

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