(Closed) Does anyone not LOVE wedding dresses?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think 99% of wedding dresses are hideous. They are in no way stylish at all. I am really struggling with what to wear.

The only designer who consistently blows me away is Jenny Packham but that is because she isn’t overly bridal. All these Alfred Algelo, Jim Hjelm, Mori Lee, Maggie Sottero etc dresses are a mess. 

Post # 18
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

On a day to day basis, I would live in dresses if I could, but I’m still not particularly enthused about wedding dresses. I really wish I could wear something other than white — but while I considered it, there’s some bone-deep streak of tradition in me that balks at a non-white dress (this, despite the fact that white looks terrible on me!).

Apart from their dreadful color (and no, salesladies, I do not think there’s a significant difference between champagne and ivory and what-have-you; those are all shades of white!!), I’m sort of meh about the look of most dresses. There have been two (2! only 2!) high-end dresses by Claire Pettibone that have BLOWN ME AWAY as works of art, but since I wasn’t willing to shell out $5000 for a piece of clothing (!!), I didn’t let myself get too excited.

That, and the dresses always seem to look better on the models than they do on me. LOL! That’s kind of a buzzkill, I must say. 🙂

Post # 19
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@LadyElva:  THIS. All of this.

I have never liked wedding dresses. Everyone here in the south wears the same kind of dress, and i never noticed the differences until I got engaged. I just picked something out that fit my body styling preferences and BAM I am done. God I don’t want any more part of it. It’s nerve racking and terrible. I have a warm feeling towards my dress, but I haven’t been able to try it on yet. Considering that it will be me by myself in my house trying on something out of the box, I doubt I will have a emotional cry over it.

I went dress shopping once. ONCE. And that was enough for me. I tried on about 3 dresses and then I was done. Peopple just didn’t carry what I wanted to wear anyway.


Post # 20
18 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Mrs Canuck:  I should preface that though the wedding is in 87 days- We only started discussing wedding plans & picked the official date at the begining of April. (i am also working 30 hrs a week and going to school full time- so dress shopping kinda takes a backseat for now)

Yes I need a formal-ish wedding dress. I have been looking at preowned dresses- but I could buy a dress right off the rack as well– lets hope i choose one by the first week of June though-

Its tough picking out a “perfect” dress when they just don’t ‘get’ me.

Post # 21
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes. I was dreading wedding dress shopping because I don’t really like them. When I show people mine I don’t get the reaction I really want. Either I look terrible or I think people don’t think it screams “bridal”. I think most people expected me in a big white princess-y gown and that wasn’t happening.

I went dress shopping and eliminated 90% of the dresses. My dress was the fourth I tried on and I knew it was it. My sister and mom expected me to continue shopping but I didn’t have that desire!

Post # 22
1037 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t wear dresses, ever. I *love* dresses, but … i’m overweight, and on a budget, and let’s be honest, where the hell am I going that I need to wear a DRESS? (I’m a full-time student right now.) Even in grade school, on days where I wanted to feel girly, I’d try to wear a skirt but I felt so awkward because I didn’t look like the other girls in my class (low self-esteem).

So for me, wedding dress shopping is going to be exhausting because 1, I don’t know what looks good on me; 2,  I don’t know what I’ll be able to fit into at the dress shop; and 3, I’ll feel awkward no matter what because I’m not used to being in a dress. Sigh. I feel like I’ll look stupid no matter what I end up wearing.

Post # 23
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I only like about 5% of wedding dresses I see. I’m really dreading shopping. I don’t particularly enjoy shopping anyway, and I’m at my heaviest ever right now, and not feeling too good about my body. Maybe it will surprise me and be great. 

Post # 24
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I kind of feel the same and I hate how much they cost. I spent thousands on my first dress and sold it years later for like 10% of what the original cost was. But what else do you do with it, it’s not like you can wear it again.

It’s also my second wedding so I’m not really feeling the traditional bride look, although I still want to look and feel like a bride… so kind of confusing lol.

Post # 25
3038 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not a huge lover either – at least not the majority of them, they just feel too much like masquerade outfits.

I never felt the urge to run around to lots of different stores and try on dress after dress, I just knew they would put me in stuff that would make me feel like I was playing dress up or try to convince me that I should pick a strapless dress. When I got my dress, I first ordered one online. It was the simplest thing on earth and I was sure it was going to work just fine. I got it, and the fit was off – back to the box and the post office. I then had my Fiance drive me to David’s Bridal where I tried on four dresses in less than 30 minutes and by the fourth dress I was like “Good enough”. We’ll pick up my dress next Monday, and I do have to say I’m looking forward to that – but mostly because it’s another thing off my TO DO list. 🙂

Post # 26
4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m still in the “honeymoon” stage with my dress and would wear it to the grocery store given the choice: it was my “inspiration” dress and we bumped into it on a random stop into a store severely discounted and I never had to try on anything else…what’s not to love?

That being said, even being discounted and perfect for me, I hate paying so much money for something I will only wear once, so I guess in that capacity I don’t like wedding dresses.

Post # 27
6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love wedding dresses only for the reason that I love playing dress up in super formal, extravegant dresses lol. I also loved trying on prom dresses. It’s not that I love the dress, I just love the experience of parading around in fancy gowns since I will honestly only be able to do that maybe 3 times in a lifetime (2 proms, 1 wedding). It’s weird, but I would love to be one of the characters from Gossip Girl and get to wear evening gowns every weekend haha

Post # 28
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I love my dress.  HATED the price tag. I don’t get why something we wear once costs so much money!!  Most of my dresses hover around 25-100 bucks, so this is my most expensive dress by far. 

I didn’t go to prom, though, so this is my first real formal gown and I guess it’ll be my most photographed dress….so I guess I’ll justify it that way, haha.  I paid for it myself, too, so at least I didn’t have to feel guilty about making someone else foot that bill.


Post # 29
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I had a non-traditional experience when I bought my dress, and thank god because I probably would’ve had the exact feelings/thoughts you did! 

It takes quite a lot to get me really excited, and I hate wearing something that looks just like everyone else. I feel this way about 90% of wedding dresses I see…been there, done that. I was so dreading the dress shopping experience, and my mother kept bombarding me with links to dresses via email! I was about to just say…you pick it, I can’t deal with this. 

Then I was browsing preownedweddingdresses.com and found this dress that I absolutely died over. I’ve never seen anything like it, and I knew it was for me. It was worn in a bridal photo shoot, but never at an actual wedding- and it is from a 2008 collection so it hasn’t been available for some time.  I paid through paypal, they shipped it (sale was pending for 36 hours, so basically I could send it back and get $$ back if it didn’t work in that time window) I tried it on at home and that was it for me. It only came in the one size, so I nearly had an anxiety attack before I put it on because I was so scared it would be too small and I would have to return it. It was definitely the answer to my prayers..I never stepped foot in a dreaded bridal shop!!



Post # 30
114 posts
Blushing bee

*raises hand* I’m generally not a fan of “wedding gowns” …I feel like once you’ve seen 10 white dresses you’ve seen them all. Some of them are very pretty on other people but for myself, yawn! I’ve worked in some aspect of fashion or another for the last 7 years so I know I’ll want something really unique. I’m 99.9% sure I’ll be wearing pink/blush for the big day, and the only designer I can see myself wearing white/ivory/whatever for is Jenny Packham. 

Post # 31
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsMagillToBe:  Do I love wedding dresses? Well I love admiring them in photos. They’re pretty and I like pretty things.

But I didn’t ‘love’ wedding dress shopping that’s for sure. I was really excited at the first one and tried on a bunch of dresses. After the fourth dress I was tired from stepping in and out of a gown while being squished with my sales associate in a teeny dressing room. Plus I think critiquing yourself in the mirror is mentally exhausting too!

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