Post # 1
My cousin during our wedding planning (only a few months ago!) said she wanted to throw a baby shower for me when the time came. However we just got married in Oct and in August I had my bridal shower. My family lives 2-7 hours away. And they have driven here twice this year. I think its too much to ask them to do it again this year (including 2013 as I’m only 4 weeks) as gas is expensive. I was thinking about registering in case anyone wanted to send us something. But I think at this point it will be easier on my family if I don’t throw one. They will feel obligated to come even though they probably can’t afford it.
Also I had a low turn out at my bridal shower (part of that is the main highway to get here has been backing up like mad causing several hours of delays). I loved my bridal shower but I’m sure a lot of our local friends would back out for whatever reason. And showers are kind of expensive to throw between renting a place and bringing food (no I can’t have it at my place waaaaaay too small). I really don’t want to be a burden on my cousin (who already paid for most of my bridal shower and her bridesmaids dress). Though she is stubborn like me so she doesn’t listen well, lol.
Just curious if other bees want to forego a baby shower?
Post # 3
I personally would not want to, but will you be visiting an area (before you have the baby) where more of your friends/ relatives live? Would someone be overjoyed to have a modest shower at their house? I think, recently, the trend was to have over-the-top, expensive showers. I know for one of my close friends or relatives, I would be ecstatic to throw them a simple, fun shower for a small group of people and simple refreshments. I think alot of people will want to welcome the baby!
If there’s another reason you don’t want a shower (don’t like being the center of attention, maybe health issues, etc.) I would make this clear to your cousin.
Post # 4
@JaneDomani: I would never have a baby shower… I don’t like an event with the express purpose of showering me with gifts. Also, I wouldn’t want gifts before the safe arrival of baby. Just seems like tempting fate to me.
Post # 5
I’m not going to turn down a baby shower. This will be our first child and I’m already in hot water with Future Mother-In-Law for turning down a bridal shower. The way I see it is that I have an entire house full of the kind of stuff that one would find on a wedding registry. What I don’t have is baby stuff and the more people want to help out the better.
Post # 6
I turned down my bridal shower, because we’d have only been able to invite 3 people. That’s not a party to me, it’s a reminder I don’t have friends. I have even less friends now, but if fo some reason someone offers, I’d turn it down for the same reason.
If coworkers offered to do a small thing, I might let them though.
Post # 7
I’m not pregnant yet but I’ve thought about this. I really can’t see a baby shower being enjoyable for me at this point because of family tension. My parents are going through a divorce, so it would be really awkward with both sides of the family there. It has not been an amicable divorce. Plus, I only have 3 or so really close friends, so I would feel sad about that (ETA – if, for example, none were able to make it, which is what happened at my bridal shower).
I think overall it would just depress me.
When that time comes, we’ll probably register just in case someone wants to get us something – but I really don’t see a shower working out for us at this point! I’m not big on being the center of attention, anyways.
Post # 8
I am going to decline a baby shower. I don’t like being centre of attention and the idea of asking for gifts seems odd to me. I’ve also had a terrible pregnancy and can’t imagine feeling like it at this point.
Post # 9
I HATE baby showers, bridal showers, etc. if i dont even want to go to an event because of all the fluff, why would i expect people to come To mine? Couple’s showers have been the norm with our group of friends & that s what we plan to do…we are even calling it a baby bash, not shower lol..there will be a specil mixed drink for the ladies, beer for the guys, bbq, & just a gooD time…im actually pretty excited, we have a lot of family &friends to invite, as well as some of my long time clients. This is our first baby so we figure we might as well embrace it. Not even doing it for the gifts, but have you seen ALL the things babies require? Im sure every little bit helps lol
Post # 10
Well, I don’t particularly like baby showers but I know my Mother-In-Law & SIL are going to throw one and wouldn’t let me back out if I wanted to. It will be nice because I don’t want to buy all that stuff on my own! 🙂
But pretty much all my family lives out if state so I know what you mean about making people travel. I had very few relatives at my bridal shower and I expect a baby shower to be the same. I’m sure it will mostly be DH’s family.
Post # 11
I don’t want any kind of shower, especially one for a baby. People are free to gush over my LO when he/she is here safe.
Side note: I’m not pregnant at the moment, but this is how it shall be.
Post # 12
@Mimoza: You could do a “Sip and See”. Those are becoming popular here– just a get together after the baby is born for people to meet the baby (and drink!) 🙂
Post # 13
@travellingfool: sounds like nice idea. At how many weeks do people normally do that?
Post # 14
Not pregnant, but my family doesn’t believe in baby showers – mainly superstitions. My grandma always said, “that baby is not truly yours until it is in your arms”. So we usually do parties (with no registry) for the Baptism instead.
Post # 15
@travellingfool: That is such a cute idea! I’d probably just let people come whenever they felt like it, provided they warn me first haha.
Post # 16
I will be having a welcome to world world party, at the same time as babys baptism, one trip for everyone an. The attention is all on the main star baby!