Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I personally can’t stand children and I don’t ever think I’ll have them. It seems like everyone I know feeds me the “oh aren’t they so cute” or the “you will change your mind later”. Uhm maybe but probably NOT. I think children are extremely annoying/needy and that I will NOT change my mind. My reason?
-I can’t stand crying/screaming babies. They make my blood boil.
It may be a small thing but boy oh boy it’s awful and is one of the many contributing reasons why my uterus is on lockdown.
Just because I have a uterus doesn’t mean I’m going to fill it with a little monster lol. How do you deal with people who constantlyyyyyyy harp on and on about how children are great and you must have them to have a great, productive life? I’m getting SO sick of hearing about it and I just want to smack some of them to be honest.
I’ve had the vaccine against baby fever.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
I love kids, but I can’t have them for health reasons. Even if I could, I don’t have the patience that I used to have, and I’m too selfish now. I want to enjoy my old age and retirement with DH, I don’t want to be putting a child through high school and college at that time.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Yeah I’m with you in that I have no inclination to have children and can get annoyed when people assume that you are going to have them or are somehow less of a family if you don’t. However, I also try to remind myself that a LOT of the children I’m around that get on my nerves have traits that are directly related to how they are parented. So while I still do not feel like having children is in my future, it comforts me to know that if it does happen, my children will be more in line with my personality than than my friends’ children (not to say that all children aren’t challenging in their own unique way)
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
i love other peoples children because i can give them back and when we first married honestly, everyone had an opinion on my uterus to the point i made up a fertility issue, so then i started getting doctors business cards so be warned
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@Natalieh86: I’ve also gotten the “you wont be a complete family without at least one child! They are the reason why you will smile every day you come home from work.” I’m thinking to myself, I’ll be smiling when there are no children screaming over legos and leap frog toys. Totally agree with you on the parenting thing. I just don’t understand and probably never will understand why parents let their kids scream their lungs out in public. Thats probably more annoying then the childs screams.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
@eloping: Wow! The determination of some people huh.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@Ms Spitfire: ive gotten “you could be dead for weeks and none will know, at least children check up on you”. hubbys answer is if we are dead what does it matter if we arent found plus we own property, there are nephews and a niece that will check in occassionally because they are in the will 🙂
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
I have no patience with kids.Where I work little kids come and eat on the patio with their parents and cry amd scream.I mean they will let them scream and run around with cars driving through the drivethru.Another instance just this week, my friend graduated so we all went out to eat.A lady was there with a newbown and it started crying and screming.Mind you its a small restraunt and they wouldn’t even pick the kid up.They just let it cry and scream for about 10 minuetes until they were done eating while everyone was staring at them.If it does ever happen (doubt it will) i would definitly take care of it and actuallty be a parent. I had my heart set as a little kid not to be a parent.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@Ms Spitfire: Exactly . . . I’ll be smiling when I come home from work and can spend uninterrupted time with my hubby. I’m sure parenting has it’s own rewards, but so does remaining child free and not being dependent on anyone and not having anyone dependent on me.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
I want kids but I am terrified to have them. Not because of patience or anything like that but because mental disporders run through my family (my grandmother, father and brother all have bipolar disorder and my brother also has autism) and I don’t think I would have the patience for that. I also wouldn’t want to put a child through living with that. My Fiance wants kids badly, but I am just too scared to risk having a child and putting it through years of ridicule for being “different” or having a mental disability and having it know it can never be what it wants (like my brother with austism wants nothing more than to be in the military, wont ever happen and he cries when people bring it up anymore). I can’t do that to someone.
Wow I have never vocalized that fear..
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
We are fully prepared to become DINKS!
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
Even after being diagnosed with endometriosis, I’m still getting the whole “Mothers bond with their babies in the womb, so you should have one instead of adopting” shtick. If anything, we’ll foster or adopt an OLDER child when we’re older (at least early to mid-thirties). I don’t like babies. The thought of having one makes my skin crawl. Besides, DH doesn’t think it’s worth the risk to my health/well-being just to have a biological child. For now, our cats are our babies. We’re enjoying being young!
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
@lynnchee: haha, I love that. I am sometimes tempted to tell people that’s what I want to be when I grow up. Except for the fact that I’m almost 30 and not that many people ask.
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
btw my friend says she was a better parent before she actually had children – she also said her children were better behaved before she actually had them as well 🙂
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
I have 3 kids. sometimes I think that is 3 kids too many. However…
now that they have grown older 24, 23, and 15… its different, they are out of the needy stage and 2 of them are on their own. Only the 15 year old is home. Holidays are more joyful. I love birthdays, easter, all holidays have more meaning.
But other peoples kids. OMG! drive me nuts, especially my nephews… they are crying, screaming, whiny brats! but i think that has to do with their mom! My SIL gives into their every whim. My youngest would beat his head on the ground… i would just get him a pillow so he didn’t get a concussion! LOL… thats my parenting style.
now that they are older, I am quite thankful:)
Ronney