(Closed) Does anyone Object to this marriage?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The vows are the things you say to each other, so i’d assume that phrase would be before them, rather than in them

 

and we’re not having it.  I don’t see a point, lol

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We didn’t have it in ours. I think that’s a little old fashioned. We wrote our own ceremony.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a city hall wedding and it was in our service.  We didn’t really get to choose our vows, they just had a “standard” service and that was part of it.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are skipping that entirely.

We are having a secular officiant, and were given 3 sample sets of ceremonies/vows to choose from or were given the option of writing our own (as long as we included the parts that were legally required). Some of the samples included the “does anyone object” bit, and others did not.

Instead of including it we chose to replace it with a few sentences about our friends and family forming a community of support and encouragement.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i always wondered this myself – but i got married catholic and i dont believe they use that in the mass – they didnt even say “you may now kiss the bride” but  when he said i now give you Mr. and Mrs. ******* i went in for the kiss anyway – havent seen my pro photos yet but if they have one of us exiting i can promise you Fiance has tons of red lipstick on his lips haha.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I saw it once on Four Weddings where the preacher said “If anyone here has just cause to object to his marriage speak no or forever…Forever…FOREVER hold your peace.”  

I loved it.  It was like saying, all y’all in the crowd today are taking a vow to STFU and not meddle and cause problems in the future.  I’ve seen too much marriage trouble exacerbated in my Future Brother-In-Law and FSIL’s marriages by my FI’s mom siding against his bro and sis’s spouses and worry that my day to be the object of her criticism could come.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We didn’t inlcude that line in our ceremony.  It wasn’t even in the ceremony template our officiant had.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Ugoob:  Does that happen ouside of the movies?

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable having it in there, but it’s totally up to you. But I think that especially in this day and age, when it comes down to it, the marriage is strictly between the bride and groom, and it’s totally their decision. If they’re standing up there, they’ve made their decision~ there’s no need for outside influences. If someone wants to object to the marriage, there are plenty of opportunities to before the wedding nowadays. 

Plus, I was horrified when someone spoke up in Jane Eyre, even though that was for a legal reason. I don’t know, call me paranoid, but I would want to eliminate the potential for drama on my wedding day. It’s stressful enough as it is!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Melini:

“all y’all in the crowd today are taking a vow to STFU and not meddle and cause problems in the future.”

bwahahahaha! I wonder if my officiant will consider letting us add this? priceless!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We didn’t have it in ours.  We wrote the ceremony ourselves.  I just always think it’s uncomfortable.

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