(Closed) Did anyone regret having a cocktail reception v. a sit-down dinner?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Suerte:  I am a bit biased as I am having a sit down dinner but (as you asked for opinions :-), I think if you are expecting some negative feedback about it, I would try to avoid that confrontation by having a dinner.  If it is far too expensive and you simply cannot afford it then that is ok to not do one but if you can afford it I think it would be nice for your guests.  And you are already listing reasons why people might expect one.  I once went to a wedding where they served very little food (and it hadnt been stated on the invites though), it was sit down meal with one small amount of food served and no choice offered to guests.  I heard a lot of people grumbling and the lady sitting next to me walked out as she did not like the food or couldn’t eat it. 

Post # 4
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, I dont think you have to bite any bullets for etiquette sake. But if you do want people to share this special time with you, don’t make them take off work. I think 6-8/9 is a much more appropriate block of time and people can still get to work the next day. I’m pretty sure most adults stay awake past 9.

I’m totally into cocktail receptions and I think it can easily make up for a dinner. It’s really popular these days to start off light and proceed with heavier small plates. I think it’s tasteful and more fun. Also, because it’s so casual, it won’t make people feel like they HAVE TO stay through the whole thing – which is defintiely more appropriate on a week night. A seated formal dinner would definitely run longer and people would feel obligated to stay through the end. I think you have the right idea!


EDIT: for your info, I’m having a plated dinner so I dont want you to think I’m just biased to cocktail receptions!

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