(Closed) Does anyone regret their ring/setting style?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

A little. I wish I’d gone with a halo style, but I think if I still want it in about 10 years, I’ll ask Fiance for a new setting then.

I guess the reason I’m a little disappointed is because that was all I showed him for a while, and while I got to make the final call, it was mostly because I knew a solitaire was what he preferred for the traditional look.

Post # 4
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Now that I have it, I love it and wouldn’t change a thing. But in the months when I had picked it out and it was holding for R to pay off, I would alternately freak out – should I have gone with a round solitaire? Should I have gone with more than one diamond? Is my ring boring? 

Now that I have it, I think my instincts were correct. It’s perfect, and anything more would overwhelm my size 4.5 fingers. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

No I don’t… and I’m so glad that both Fiance and I kept strong opinions on what my ring should be. When I was initially looking at rings I thought I really liked the halo style, but Fiance was immediately turned off by it. He said it was pretty but it didn’t look like an engagement ring to him. So I said ok, no halo. Then Fiance kind of liked 3 stone rings but I really preferred solitaires, and he listed to me. I think that between the two of us, he picked out an absolutely awesome ring.

Post # 6
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My setting is the same width as my center stone, so I wish I’d gone with a slightly larger center stone or one that was slightly more rectangular to give the appearance of standing out more. Cushion cuts are notorious for appearing smaller than their carat weight, but I didn’t know this before. But, while it bugged me all throughout the engagement, I slapped some diamond bands on it and now it looks “complete”. Long story short, i “fixed” what was bugging me. But I still love her! She makes me feel pretty even when I crawl out of bed, lol

Post # 7
673 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ha ha sometimes I still think about this. I wanted a vintage inspired halo, but when I tried it and, and then tried on a solitaire, the solitaire looked waaaaaay better on my finger. I think the solitaire has a higher setting, so the stone seems to “pop” more. Even though the solitaire was stunning, I kept thinking the halo was much more me. I thought my fiance was going to pick the halo (he kept hinting that he did), so when I saw the solitaire, I was very surprised. It took me a while, but now I love it. One thing I do like is that there are more options for a funky wedding band (I’m thinking rose gold engraved scroll, or possibly a delicate palladium floral band.)


If I need to satisfy a halo craving, I can always save up and buy myself one in my birhtstone. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My ering will be ready next week YAY – it will have taken 2 months to make – needless to say I am very excited (I haven’t been ringless, i do have a rose gold eternity band.)  I am sure in 10-15 yrs I’ll want a completely new diamong and different setting, haahaahaa 

I didn’t have a diamond choice, I got a family diamond from 1916 – its an old mine cut which I am super excited about, I know its pretty special. But like I said, I’ll probably want something completely different in 10-15 yrs…Since we’re being honest and all, haahaahaaha

Post # 9
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Fiance and I got engaged 9 1/2 years ago. I was ready to be engaged, but not ready to marry him, until now. Long story. The ring he gave me then was and still is beautiful, but he wanted to get me something bigger and better now that I am ready. I was perfectly happy with the other one, but now that I have the new one, I am much more happy with it, so I guess I did regret my first one, but didn’t know it, until I got the new one.

Post # 10
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I only regret not looking around more. I love my ring, but it was definitely way more than we were looking to spend. And then we didn’t price out the band while we were looking, and that was also a lot more than we were hoping. But, to keep myself from having too much buyer’s remorse, I just calculate my “cost per wear” and realize it goes down every day Smile I’m down to about $22 per wear right now, so it doesn’t seem so bad!

Post # 11
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I don’t necessarily regret anything. I love my ring. But I do wish that the setting was a bit closer to my hand. It stands a good quarter inch off of my finger and gets caught on EVERYTHING.


Post # 12
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Fiance and I never really talked about rings realistically.  I used to work for a diamond wholesaler and randomly one day a good yr before we got engaged showed him 2 of my former employer’s rings I liked.  The 2 rings were almost identical; simple solitaires, one plain metal with a knife-edge with a tapered shank, and one a pave setting also tapered shank.  Clearly he remembered that conversation, because a yr later he proposed with a carbon copy of the plain metal ring.  I love it and thinks it’s beautiful, but if we’d really talked about it in an actual “we’re getting engaged” way, I would have told him I MUCH prefer the pave=(  He’s so proud of catologuing that ring all those months, I think it would absolutely break his heart if I told him I wanted something else.

I’ve always wanted a thin, delicate pave wedding band, but I’m afraid how it would look with my plain metal ering.  I’m afraid I’d have to go larger diamonds to not get overwhelmed by the cohesive look of all metal thus defeating the whole “thin delicate” thing I wanted=(

Post # 13
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I found a picture of a solitaire with six prongs and gave it to him, remembering what my mom had said once about six prongs being more secure.  That’s what I got, but sometimes I wish I’d gone with four prongs instead.  At least I don’t worry about losing the diamond!  Otherwise, it is absolutely perfect and so shiny that it stands out in every picture.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

When Fiance and I first starting looking at rings. I really was set on a round diamond in a 6 pronged solitare setting.

Then when we went to the store we ending up getting the ring from, I saw this one that I feel in love with. It was so pretty and had so much sparkle because of the pave but was still similar to the solitare.

That’s the one he ended up getting me. I still do LOVE it, but sometimes wish I went with the solitare because I’m afraid my ring will look out of style or outdated in 10 years or more. That and I feel like my center stone would have been bigger if he went with just the solitare.

Post # 15
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I LOVE my ring, but I wish I had chosen something with a less ornate setting. It made shopping for a wedding band really hard, since absolutely nothing fit with it. I had to have a band custom made, and it cost more than if I had just been able to pick something.

At least I know that no one else out there has a ring or band even remotely like mine ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 16
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I fell in love with my ring at first sight, even though it totally wasn’t what I headed out to shop for. I still ADORE it. It’s so much more me than what I had in mind. The only thing that gives me pause about it is how high the setting is– I just measured it, and it’s almost exactly a 1/2″ tall! But I am getting a flatter wedding band that can be worn on its own so I don’t have to wear this one all the time when I ride/ work with my horse, or around the yard, etc.– too many e-ring eating things out there in the world!

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