(Closed) does anyone think you are WEIRD for wanting to CHANGE your name??

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

YES! Me, I have always known I was going to change my name. My surname is my Dad’s (of course) and he left when I was 9 so I don’t feel like I have any connection whatsoever to that name. But when I mentioned to colleagues that I was changing my name they were SHOCKED. Like, their jaws all dropped. “You’re doing …what?!?!?!” I was surprised that this was such a shocking thing to them…

Post # 4
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4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@dynamic_duo: My friends think im odd for NOT wanting to change mine I even told i was rude

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@MsPanda: I hear you! I feel like I’m constantly having to explain and justify why I’m not just taking Mr. P’s last name as my own. I honestly don’t get why anyone cares what the couple decides to do about their names. I mean, it’s a personal decision that doesn’t really affect anyone else. Who cares if you think that decision is weird? Keep it to yourself. 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@dynamic_duo: You’re not weird! You’re doing what you’re comfortable with and what makes you most happy. Any decision that comes from that place is the right one in my book. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I havent met one person who thinks its weird. 

Personally I really hate hyphenated names. Anyway, there is always confusion about a womans name until u start to get to know her name at our workplace.

Y? Because lets say her name is Ann Grace-Smith. But u dont know that Grace is one of her last names, not a middle name. So when she calls in, when she says her name, u think that Grace is her middle name!! Confusion ensues until she says its hyphenated.

Plus we always file your name under your first last name. So if your hyphenated name is Ann Grace-Smith then u need to tell us to look under Grace not Smith. Its annoying and there is alot of confusion when ladies ask for their last last name. We cant find it and its just annoying.

Oh and there are some men out there that will tell u ladies that they are fine with u not changing your name, but secretly they hate that u didnt take their name!! How do I know this?? Because when some husbands of women who have hyphenated names comes into the pharmacy, the husbands always ask under the last last name. Even though we told them that we file the names under the first last name. They refuse to ask under the hyphenated name! Then for a little bit I cant find it and then the man finally says try looking under Grace.

Ladies if u do decide to hyphenate your name, when u talk to a company PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT U TELL THEM RIGHT AWAY THAT YOUR NAME IS HYPHENATED!!! Be up front about it. They will love u for keeping the confusion down!!

Second, ask how your pharmacy and other companies file your name. Under your first last name or under the last last name. Then only ask under that name.

And finally, please talk to your husbands. Tell them how each company(like your pharmacy) files your name and tell him to lesson the confusion for the workers by asking for your prescriptions under that name!

If u do those three things u will make alot of people happy. Like me. I am so sick of the confusion that hypenated names bring!!! And only because of the confusion, I cant stand hyphenated names!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dynamic_duo:I know. lol… guess that was a small rant. Sorry for hyjacking your thread. I guess that was really getting to me.lol

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dynamic_duo: It really is amazing how confusing hyphenated names really are. Figured I would give the laides pointers to lessen the confusion. Maybe I should do a post? Oh well.

And again. I plan on taking my FI’s name. No one that Ive talked to thinks its weird though. Youve always wanted to keep your name, but now your not? These people, are they the ones that knew u were gonna keep your name? Maybe they are surprised that u changed your mind? Maybe thats y they think its weird? Either way do what u want and what makes u comfortable. Congrats.

Post # 14
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No its okay. It makes sense. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my mom! She kept her name, way back in the …. uh, early 70’s? when no one was doing it. I just find it a bit odd – if she felt that strongly about taking a guys name, why did she give me & my sister my fathers last name when we were born? She even suggested I take her name instead of my FI’s (awesome suggestion, if not a little weird). 

PS: I’m either double barreling it or taking it completely. Haven’t decided yet.

PPS: I thought you couldn’t change your name if you lived in Quebec?

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