Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
Hello all….just wondering if anyone has had any issues where one of their parents/or both have had a problem/dislike for the man in your life. I am curious because my father just does not like or get along with my man anymore. My dad is a bit crazy at times and does this to everyone on occasion, and he has now gone on rollercostar of either I like/love your bf or I can’t stand to be in the same room with him. Please fellow bees let me know what you have dealt with and offer any advice.
Post # 3
My mom has liked my past two boyfriends but when she met the guy who is now my Fiance she didn’t like him- mostly for superficial reasons like his choice of employment or his looks compared to the other. The Fiance didn’t like my mom either mainly because he thought she was stuck up- go figure! 3 1/2 years in they finally like each other because she realizes how much he loves and cares for me and he realizes how much she loves and cares for me. Plus now I think she likes him more than me. She calls him son and can’t wait for him to come visit.
During the 3 1/2 years of dislike though, I kept them around each other. At some point I knew they would either like each other for me or risk losing me and eventually it worked because both of them realized that all I wanted was to be happy. I think you need to sit down with your dad and tell him that you love him but your Fiance makes you happy and he isn’t going away so he might as well deal with it.
Post # 4
At first, my parents told me my Fi and i went together like "Ketchup and blackberry pie". you know, they wanted me to date a rich doctor-to-be from a well to-do family. VERY SUPERFICIAL
About 2, 3 years into it, my parents had this epiphany that i could have been with the best looking guy in the world, had all the money, and he could have been a miserable husband. So what if my Fiance and I aren’t loaded? We’re happy and he treats me good.
I just gushed about all the wonderful happy things he did for me. I NEVER brought up the bad things. My mom holds onto them then brings them up at the most inopportune moments. Very "i told you so"
Post # 5
My parents don’t approve of my fiancee because it’s a woman. I know this isn’t the same thing, but I know how you feel and it SUCKS. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. It takes time for parents to come around. You will just have to be patient and hope your folks realize your relationship is for real. If they see that you are genuinely happy and are treated well, I think they will come around…eventually.
Post # 6
my parents love my fiance but i have some exes they don’t feel the same way about. if it is just your dad, but everyone else in your life likes you fiance, don’t worry. your dad will come around because he loves you. if however everyone thinks something isn’t right, you need to think abotu what you’re not seeing. also maybe you should ask your dad what bothers him. i know my mom wasn’t thrilled when i first started seeing my now fiance because he is 13 yrs older. but he’s healthy, he takes amazing care of himself, etc. and she can see past it.