Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor and I were talking about my bachlorette party and we both stumped ourselves! We were talking about who I would be inviting and getting a list to her of names, numbers and such. If you invite friends ( not necessarily close friends ) to the bachlorette party, would it be incredibly rude not to send them an invite to the wedding?
Post # 3
@LBalazi: yeah I think that’s a no-no. Why would you even want anyone at your bachelorette party you wouldn’t want at your wedding?
Post # 4
Yes, you should only invite people to pre-wedding parties if they are invited to the wedding.
Post # 5
Yes. Only invite those you want at your wedding to your bachelorette party.
Post # 6
I think you should only invite people who you will invite to the wedding.
Post # 8
Let’s just dig a hole and throw Emily Post in it.
Proper etiquette aside, like the above poster said, why would you want somebody at the bachelorette party who isn’t invited to the wedding? It is going to make it awkward for everyone. The bride would feel guilty every time she mentioned the upcoming wedding, and the people who were in attendance for this party would just kinda feel they didn’t make the cut.
So yeah….I guess I took the long way around the horse to give you your answer. I say no on the inviting people to the bachelorette party if they aren’t invited to the wedding. (Of course, typically, where I live the ONLY women to attend the bachelorette party is the bridesmaids.)
Post # 9
Yes, that is absolutely rude.
Post # 10
Yeah…you should only invite people to pre-wedding parties (bachelorette, bridal shower, etc) who are/would be invited to the wedding. That would be way rude to invite someone to your bachelorette party and not the wedding! I can’t even imagine having a friend I would be close enough to to invite to a bachelorette but not the wedding.
Unless there was some crazy circumstance or something. To me it would say that you’re ok to come buy me drinks/gifts at my bachelorette party but not good enough to come to the wedding as my guest.
Post # 11
Ok I was thinking that would be rude but it had never even thought of it! To clear the air I do have friends that I would like to party with that I am not inviting to the wedding because we HAD to do guest list cuts…
I would love to go and party with the gals I go to school with but with my family being so large I dont have the funds to invite everyone I want 🙁
FYI we won’t be exchanging gifts @ the bachlorette party so I am not asking for gifts… I would NEVER do that!! I didnt/don’t want to be rude… just really wanted a night for the nursing gals to party with me as well 🙁
Post # 12
@LBalazi: You can go party with the girls… just don’t call it a bachelorette party!