(Closed) Does being married "feel" different to you?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Cabin

I love it.  It’s not really different.  The bond is stronger, the love is stronger and that’s is.. The stress of life is lessened overall. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope, not at all. We dated for 12 years and lived together for 8 before getting married though ๐Ÿ˜› In my mind we’ve been married for quite a while.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nothing has changed except I’m running around still changing my last name here and there.  In our relationship, it feels exactly the same though.

Post # 20
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Newbee

Feels just as good if not better. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nothing really feels different for us either. We were already living together for 3.5 years before getting married.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We lived together for a couple years before we got married. The dynamics of our relationship and home life haven’t changed, but I would say it feels different. I can’t tell you how, because I can’t explain it, but it does feel different. It feels good, permanent, like he’s MY person, forever. Not to say he wasn’t before, but now that he’s my husband, I can tell. I dunno. Like I said, can’t describe it. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wanted to add another thought. – for me there was a much bigger difference in how our relationship changed between dating and engaged than between engaged and married.

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Stace126:  Well, my Darling Husband and I met on eHarmony and had a long-distance relationship the entire time we were together until after our wedding (and, even for the first ten months of our marriage, we only were able to be together for part of each week, until I could sell my house, quit my job, and relocate full time.

We also had not done anything with each other beyond kissing until after our wedding, so being married was quite different in terms of the nature of our relationship as well.

Finally, I went from having my own home and having lived by myself for more than 20 years to a new home that I shared with a husband, two young teens/tweens, and a dog.

Because of all of these factors, EVERYTHING felt different to me about being married. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We lived together for a year and dated for 11 years prior to getting married so it didn’t feel different at all.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We got married after dating for 6.5yrs and living together for 3. Nothing about our situation changed, but being married feels a bit different I would say, as a PP said more warm and fuzzy! ๐Ÿ™‚ I can’t really describe it, just feels awesome!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nope. Everyone asks after you get married how it feels and I’m like… The same as it did not being married? Lol. We had already bought a house, were sharing bank accounts, etc… i imagine if a couple wasnt already doing those things marriage would be quite a change 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@oracle:  Loving the concrete analogy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We lived together before, but yes it feels different.  We’re closer and I’m more in love than I ever thought I could be, as nauseating as that sounds.  He puts up with all my crap and supports me when I’m feeling down, sends me the sweetest text messages during the day and when we aren’t working we plan our future together.  I feel very lucky to be married to him.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Stace126:  Hmm..

For the first month or so it felt the exact same as dating, but now that we have been married for 7 months, I can honestly say that it has changed the dynamic.

I think we used to overlook things that bothered us about each other, but now the finality of our relationship is so concrete that we are in the stages of coming to terms with (not in a bad way) that we have to make this work truly “for better or worse.”

We are both entirely committed to having only one marriage for the rest our lives. We believe this is how God intended us to live, and we believe that he has blessed our union. We are now in the process of working out some kinks in things because we are realizing the preciousness of our marriage, and how important it is to treat it with tenderness and care. So, while our day to day life as a couple has not changed, out outlook has (gradually, and without intention) so that really, everything is different.

 

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