Post # 1
STUPID QUESTION ALERT!
I was just wondering if it feels different once you marry your S/O? Like, do you look at them through new eyes? Love them more? Take them more seriously? I’m looking at a friend’s recent wedding pictures and I can almost feel the weight of what they just went through just from the pictures, in a good way. I feel like I’m looking at a very private moment between them.
I’m curious if on May 20th I’ll look at my then-husband and feel stronger or differently about him after we go through our wedding events.
Post # 3
Not for me, lol. I already knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, vows didn’t change that.
Post # 4
I will say finding out we’re pregnant intensified our closeness though. Like, no matter what we will always be connected. And I can only imagine that will be even stronger feeling once the baby is born.
Post # 6
As I have been married before, I would have to say DEFINITELY.
Post # 7
Honestly, it doesn’t feel especially different, because we made the commitment to eachother BEFORE we were married. Sure, the ceremony was nice, and something we’ll always remember, but I think the engagement was what really solidified the relationship because that event confirmed that we were serious about our lives together. The actual wedding just reaffirmed that in front of our close friends and family, if that makes sense.
We will continue to become closer with each passing event like a PP said.
Post # 8
No, not really haha! You sort of go through the exciting phase of saying “My HUSBAND” *squeeeeeeeee* and then it just becomes your way of life.
Post # 9
Hmmm not really. But we lived together first, so it wasn’t like this huge momentous shift in our lives you know? I always joke around and say that the only difference is that now if I wanted to get rid of him it would cost me a lot of money, lol!!!
Seriously though, I think the biggest thing that changed for me is that I feel more protective. Like if I feel that someone has “wronged” Darling Husband, I get really upset on his behalf. A “don’t eff with my family” instinct I guess.
And I agree with Navy_Wife, we had a bit of a ‘moment’ when AF was a few days late and I was having a lot of symptoms of having a bun in the oven (I don’t, I just apparently have a weird body that likes to have a lot of heartburn and nausea randomly apparently, lol!!!), and Darling Husband and I talked a lot about the baby, and he talked to “the baby”. It was very cute, and I did feel super close to him during that and since then. I’m really looking forward to pregnancy when it does happen for us! I would say that week felt more different for us than being newlyweds.
Post # 10
@KristenGotMarried: Great question! I thought of this too actually.
Post # 11
I have been married before, and I have known my now husband of a week for 17 years. And surpisingly so, I feel more in love. I can feel more compassion and more wanting to be there for him. I see it with him too, although I am his first wife. He touches his wedding ring continuously and pretends he is out in public announcing and pointing to a fake person standing next to him, which would be me, “this is my WIFE”. Granted, he is 47 and not 22. I feel giddy, writing Mrs. Alpha on return address for thank you cards is super amazing. You fall in and out of love many times over the course of your relationship, we are most definitely at a point we have never been before, and I LOVE EVERY MINUTE OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 12
…adding to that though, there’s a part of me that still can’t believe I got married 3 weeks ago. Like it almost hasn’t sunk in. Like you, I wondered if anything actually “changes”, and I see it doesn’t. That’s a relief, but in a small way, almost underwhelming. I dont’ know necessarily that “back to normal” was what I was expecting, but I’m glad we’re back to a routine, and actually have time to ourselves now that we’re not planning like crazy. The wedding was fun, and the reception was amazing, but I’m glad we have no obligations, no venues, and no vendors to deal with any longer.
Post # 13
I’m wondering that too.
There will be a major shift in our lives after the wedding as we are leaving our apartment of 3 years and moving to another country.
I don’t have work and will have to find a new job in a new country and we will be starting over again from the beginning with making a network as a married couple rather than as individuals.
We’ve been together 7 1/2 years, so I’m hoping the new country/new life will help solidify the “newness” of being married.
Post # 14
It felt different for me! I felt more confident and secure, and that has not faded. But I am a little insecure, and I don’t know many single people- everyone is married! We did feel a little extra special afterward, the excitement of it all. It was nice that we had that wedding feeling, it was a big deal.
Post # 15
Stronger love for eachother, just a tad. But it really didn’t feel much different. Also, more committment to eachother.