(Closed) Does being pregnant trump my wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You should try to reach out to her again. Pregnancy hormones can make a girl act really crazy, but it’s hard to them be the one to admit you were acting unreasonably, so I would give her the benefit of the doubt and call her and let the past be the past. Don’t rehash it all. Just tell her that you’ve been missing her and you want to make this work and you would love for her to still be in the wedding, but if she has too much on her plate, you understand. You just don’t want to lose her over this.

Post # 4
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes – reach out to her.  Having a baby and planning a wedding are both very stressful but important milestones in people’s lives.  While being pregnant doesn’t trump your wedding per se, it should be on equal footing.  Tell her you understand that she can’t perform the duties of a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but she can help when she can and that you still want her as a guest at the wedding.  And you’ll help her when you can.  Two way street.

Post # 5
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How many times in the past 6 weeks have you tried to reach out to her? Yes, she didn’t take your calls initially (I’m sure she was angry) but you could have reached back out a week or two later when things calmed down. I say you guys put this dumb argument behind you and just move forward.  Make it clear if she is too stressed to be in the wedding that it is okay, but you’d still like her to be part of your day if she can make it.  I can understand why she got upset about your comment – whether or not you were talking about her it’s better to remember that no one is going to be as excited as you are for your wedding, especially not a prego person who is having their first child.  One does not trump the other, they are both equally exciting and important to the individual.  

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