(Closed) does BJ get easier with practice? TMI

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Blow a cucumber. And I’m not joking. If you see light green when you finish get a new one and try again becasue that means you just bit some skin off the green dick.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My advice would be to buy some LUBE!! Use your hand up and down along the shaft of his penis with the lube and use your mouth on the head of his penis and his frenulum. (very sensitive)

You can get a rythm going and control the amount you actually put in your mouth without decreasing his pleasure. (since you will be working with your hand as well)

 

As you get more confident in this area, you can take more into your mouth at once and experiment with your tongue, etc…. Most important is to HAVE FUN…don’t do anything that makes you gag or that you won’t enjoy and be enthusiastic! Cool

 

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@vmec: HAAA!!!!!!!!!!

 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee

Cup your fingers as PP stated but keep them right up at your lips and move them up and down along with your mouth.   Also use lots of spit.  Tons of it.  And cup his balls with your other hand and pull them up as you go down.  Another good thing is twist your head one one and your fingers the opposite and go a little bit like that. My man doesn’t stand a chance when I do that.

 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got all my technique from my gay roommate in college. (If you really want to know how to give a BJ, ask a man the gives them.)

The lips over teeth thing has already been covered, so here’s some more of my basic repertoire:

tip #1: hold the base of the shaft with your hand. When you bring your head down (so the penis goes into your mouth, slide your hand up (toward your mouth coming down). You can adjust the placement of your hand to provide kind of a brake to stop the penis going too far in and triggering your gag reflex. (Because, in general, men get grossed out when you puke on their penises while giving a blow job. Not all of them, mind, but any man that actually gets turned on by women vomiting on his penis is not completely right. I speak from experience.) Also, don’t squeeze too tightly, or you can make orgasming more difficult.

tip #2: vary the depth into your mouth the penis goes. I use a cycle of 10–I start with 10 shallows, where just the head goes in my mouth. Then 9 shallows and a deep, where the head goes in 9 times, and then on the 10th stroke, the shaft, down to where my hand is. Then 8 shallows, 2 deeps…. Most guys will have finished by the time you get to 10 deeps. (If not, go back the other way… 10 deeps, 9 deeps and 1 shallow, 8 deeps and 2 shallows… ) You can make your own patterns, too, if you get bored with that one. 🙂

 

 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My advice is only give oral if you are into it and comfortable with it.

 

It is also a good idea to make him earn it, men who receive BJs for just having a penis have potential for being lousy lovers and spoiled lazy people in general.

 

 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@vmec:

you slay me

Post # 37
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Sugar bee

And every guy is different! don’t forget that. My guy doesn’t like deep throating vbery much and to finish him I have to stay right at the top with my twisting motion mentioned above.

 

Post # 39
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Bumble Beekeeper

It definitely gets easier!

I agree with using your hand and mouth together and kind of twisting your hand a bit as you go up and down, that’s DH’s favorite. lol.

Here’s a pretty informative article on the subject. Hell, a pretty informative website in general. 

http://www.sex-project.com/fellatio.shtml

Post # 40
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@wbrn: +1

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree pretty much all of the above advice. DH loves it when I hold everything steady at the bottom of the shaft with one hand (hand open, fingers spread, penis between my thumb and index finger). I get everything wet, and with the other hand I stroke down (like giving a handjob) with a twist at the end, and then follow with my mouth, on both the up- and downstrokes. I have a pretty sensitive gag relfex, so every 10 or so strokes I just use my hands and focus on sucking and licking the head. 

I also agree with practice, on a cuke, and with your SO. Don’t be afraid to try something new/different, and learn his reactions. If he moans and groans and thrusts his hips off the bed, you’re definitely doing something right. If he’s not really reacting much, try a different speed or pressure, or something else entirely. 

I used to hate giving blow jobs, before I was good at them. Now I love doing it. It not only gets him hot, giving them gets me hot. 

Have fun!

Post # 43
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Helper bee

use your hands and mouth at the same time. lick sides and suck on head. when he finshes keep using your hadns up and down slowly but hard then slide your hand down one last time slowly and kiss the head. fH heart melts when i do that at the end. 

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I don’t know about the rest of you, but I cannot swallow!  I’ve tried a bunch of times and threw up each time.  It’s not the taste, but the volume going down… totally NOT sexy to end a hot BJ with puking.  So, OP, that’s also ok if you can’t let him finish in your mouth. 

I usually either let DH finish on my boobs while still rubbing/stroking him, or we have flavored condoms and I’ll put one on and then I’m totally fine with him finishing in my mouth!  It’s a good compromise for us. 

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