(Closed) does BJ get easier with practice? TMI

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@al1988: There are actually websites that give tips on it…I remember looking for them when I was a teenager, hee.

Also, in all seriousness, read some erotica. Maybe even some slash. Might get some cool ideas. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Oh my god, the first time I gave my SO a BJ, I was TERRIBLE at it.  I think I apologized 20 times after for having no experience at it.  But, hey, they appreciate that you are honest with them that you don’t have any (or much) experience.  Here’s a tip: focus on the head and use your hand at the base.  No need to deep-throat, for the majority of his nerves are in the head of his penis.

It DOES get easier with practice.  In fact, my SO always has to stop me in the midst of a BJ session before he gets TOO excited.  He’s always like, “Damn, you’re too good at that now!”  It makes me beam haha. : )  Just play around and see what he enjoys.  Not all men like the same thing.  You’ll get it!

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Lovvee these tips (and favorited this thread)! The best BJ I ever gave my fiancee (which somehow left him out of breath and literally stunned at the end) used this technique, more or less:

move your head up and down with him in your mouth, occasionally deepthroating. While you have him inside your mouth (and while you’re doing the up down motions), use your tongue to lick the underside of his penis at the very top (frenulum- where head meets shaft) and very bottom of the shaft. I used one of my hands to play with the boys (lightly) and the other hand to grip his penis and to supplement mouth motions. I don’t like cum in my mouth…whatsoever. So, I finished my placing his penis in between my boobs (with lube) and rapidly moving up and down while staring at him.  All done with him lying on the bed and me sitting over his legs, but I think you could use any other position as well.

Fiance loved the finish. It was the first time I’d done anything like it and I’d definitely recommend trying it, esp if you’re not comfortable with swallowing. 

Post # 49
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Helper bee

watch porn! what better place to learn than from the pro’s

best bj tip: drink lemonade or suck on a lemon right before going down on him…you will have so much saliva to spit, suck, lick, jerk and lubricate him

ps-there is no one set motion to the perfect blow job, its about switching it up, using both your hands, your tongue, lips and mouth to take control of that co**. Seriously watch some video’s online, i recommend sasha grey ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@wbrn: I hope you are kidding!

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@piglet_625: If you want him to finish in your mouth, without having to swallow (or spit), aim the head towards the roof of your mouth. Sort of catch it in the front of your mouth and when he’s done, open your lips and let his come dribble out over his penis. It’s like a reverse cum shot and they love it.

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@al1988: Yes, it get easier and much more fun when you have some experience and confidence. The best book ever is ” Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man”.  Gives you step by step- out your hand here, use your tongue like this, etc. I highly, highly recommend it!

Just remember the biggest turn on for him is your attitude–if you love doing it, he will enjoy it so much more. Also, it’s not all about sucking. It’s about using your hands, lips and tongue to stroke, rub, lick.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

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@KoiKove: I was not kidding in the least. Husband does not get a bj unless he deserves it. A man who just gets oral pleasures for no real reason will become a spoiled lover. A goal is a good thing for a man to have. If hubby knows he might get a bj if he cleans the house, he will  do an excellant job and if I feel he did a worthy job he may or may not be rewarded.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

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@wbrn: Well I must have one spoiled lover on my hands, then!  My husband gets them all the time for no reason other than I love him and want to express that to him.  I don’t view sex as a reward — it’s something DH and I give and receive freely because we love each other.  But, hey, different strokes for different folks, I guess.  I’ve never heard that approach before.

 

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@KoiKove: You know, I tried that too!  I read it somewhere else online and it didn’t work too well for me either.  Ugh… dang sensititve gag reflexes!!  Thanks for the tip though!  Our best bet I think is him finishing on my boobs, which works well for both of us, plus I get to see his reaction during the whole grand finale which is really great. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 55
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@wbrn: I guess as long as your hubby is ok with that. Sex is certainly not just a reward for housework in my house!!

OP, yes you will get better with time. Practice on him, and have him tell you what he likes and doesn’t like. My husband tells me I am the best, and I’ve perfected my technique over the years.

Post # 56
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@piglet_625: Boob finish is a great ending too! But if you want to try it in your mouth, try putting you tongue to the top of your mouth and have him finish there. It shouldn’t affect your gag reflex since nothing will go down your throat.

 

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@wbrn: Glad that works for you, but I can’t imagine treating sex like something he has to earn. My DH isn’t a lazy, spoiled lover because he likes to please me as much (if not more) as I like to please him. He does housework not because there is a treat in it for him, but because he is a responsible adult that knows stuff around the house has to get done.

I’m like

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@piglet_625: If DH wants a BJ and I’m not super tired, he gets one. He’s happy and I’m happy giving him one.

Post # 57
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

It get easier. I usually try to wrap my lips around my teeth so I dont get my teeth on his penis. I can imagine that doesnt feel awesome lol. You will get the hang of it. Just like everything else practice makes perfect. 

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Okay so Fiance is all about more of me.  He loves it when I use my hands and rub up on his belly, kiss is inner thighs, etc. Slide up and put my boobs against his tummy, kiss my way back down….

Also…while you’re actually using your mouth… (to do this you REALLY have to get down in/under there)… Put your hand palm up, and use your thumb and first finger to stroke the area right under the balls…this drives Fiance crazy, and he says its like a “deeper” type of pleasure. Fiance also loves plenty of attention on the head, but other men have said that they prefer more attention at the base…

You could also ask your Fiance to moan and give you cues, i.e. when you do something that feels awesome he should moan or say “OOOOOH that feels sooooo good.” 

Also, if he goes down on you and does a really good job, you’ll be super motivated to do a great job for him too. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Also, if you relax the muscles at the back of your throat, the penis should slide right down. 

I have zero gag reflex. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

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