Does DH/SO know your weight?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

MrsWolfaith :  Man he’s seen a baby come out of me, I’m sure as heck not going to hide my weight!  That doesn’t mean I don’t get self conscious about but I don’t actively hide it from him either.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yes…he usually even knows if I’ve gained a few or lost a few because I tell him. He knows what number I hate seeing on the scale…and now that I’m pregnant he gets to regularly hear me tracking my weight gain by week. Before I was pregnant, I’d keep him updated on my stats on the body fat/muscle ratio I’d see at the gym because I was proud of building muscle. He also tells me his weight pretty regularly, and whether he’s trying to lose weight because he’s getting up above where he’s comfortable (I do most of the cooking, so I think he does it so I start putting some lighter stuff/lower carb on the menu). I guess neither of us really think anything of it…we don’t really ask, but it’s more just mentioned in passing.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I think he always had a general idea (we work out together, etc), but now that he goes to pre-natal appts with me, there’s no hiding it. I think I’m the one who’s most freaked out about the growing numbers on the scale, not him. Ugh.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t tell him, but honestly, even I don’t know it! I refuse to weigh myself (I’m weird, I even ask the doctor not to tell me unless there is a problem) and just go off how I feel.  

Post # 20
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686 posts
Busy bee

Yes, he knows. We have a scale in the bathroom and if he is in the room when I weigh myself, he sees.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

No but he tells me his all the time. Why are guys like this? I was mortified when I found out that I weighed more than him. I once said something like, “oh i’m more than you” and he wouldn’t believe it. I don’t think he would care because he can’t keep his hands off me but I think he’d be surprised.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Maybe, I don’t know. I’ve weighed myself in front of him, but god only knows if he’s paying attention. I used to hide it from him when I was bigger, but now I don’t care. 

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My Fi knows my approximate weight. But this is mostly because I’ve gained 10 pounds in the past 6ish months and have been complaining about it constantly. 

I’m not super tiny but I’m not overweight. Talking about it with him just doesn’t bother me, I guess. He’s gained a few “happy” pounds and compains about it, too.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Lately I’ve been losing weight so yes, I tell him my goals and I get excited.

But really, I think just telling him would be a weight off your shoulders. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Yes. Odd thing to hide or keep secret in a marriage. You see every inch of each other anyhow. Lol.

I don’t think I could commit to my spouse as a life partner if I didn’t feel comfortable with him knowing something like this. 

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m currently pregnant so right now he definitely knows my weight because I update him each time I come home from the doctor’s office. 

Before I was pregnant…he had an idea I think, but it’s not like he ever asked. I never hid it from him. I’m sure if he was genuinely curious and had asked me, I would’ve told him. I know he loves me more than ever and it has nothing to do with the number on the scale. 

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

MrsWolfaith :  Your husband is not an idiot – he has a general idea of what you weigh and he loves you anyway.  This is not something to worry about.  

And yes, my husband knows what I weigh. Two reasons. 1: I’m nearing the end of my pregnancy so I’ve been yelling my weight out to him as we watched to see when I’d pass him on the scale (it wasn’t until the last 2 months).  We’re already discussing how I’ll drop past him again and in what time frame.  Which leads to 2:  We don’t hide our health from each other.  It’s not shallow to want your partner to be healthy, and that means exercising well and maintaining an appropriate body weight.  I do not buy into the whole “beautiful no matter what” mentality and neither does my husband.  When one of us is gaining weight to an excess, we point it out and do what we can to support dropping it off again, be that exercising together or making healthier meals.  I realize that’s not the case for everyone – there are obviously reasons some people can’t do that and that’s okay – but it is what works for us, so I’m not going to hide it if I pick up more weight than I should, I’m going to own it and do something about it.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Mine does. When we started dating, I was ~35 lbs. heavier than I am now, so I told him my goal weight, and we celebrated together when I met the goal! He also lost around 30 lbs. during the first few years of our relationship. That opened up the conversation about weight, which I’m grateful for, since we don’t have any other secrets! We’ve discussed weight openly since then.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

No, he doesn’t. I’ve gained 30 pounds since meeting him (I’m now losing it — 12 pounds down) and weigh more than he does. He’s never said a word about the weight gain and always maintains that I am beautiful and sexy, but there’s no reason for me to get that precise with him. Lol.

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