Does DH/SO know your weight?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ve definitely told him my weight or approximate weight before (and he with me), especially when I complain if I gain a pound or two, but honestly I doubt he remembers! Neither of us weighs ourselves often but we both have a general idea of what one another weights. FWIW, we are both short and slim.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

My husband who I’ve been with for 13 years does not know my weight. Last time a nurse asked me before anesthesia I whispered in her ear. I’m ridiculous. And embarassed. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d say yes, roughly (for my “normal” weight, I’m sure he had no idea except when I explicitly told him when I was pregnant at times).  I’m sure he doesn’t know an exact number but could take a good guess.  We usually weight about the same (same height) but I probably way 6-8lbs more than him right now since it’s hanging on after baby #2

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I have told my Darling Husband my weight before when I’ve needed to (horseback riding excursion and a helicopter ride). There is no way he actually remembers that information!!! I’m absolutely positive that if he needed that info today, he’d have to ask me. I’m lucky that he remembers my birth date!! 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Man, I don’t even know my own weight! But if he needed to know for any reason, I’d definitely feel more than comfortable telling him. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

For us it doesnt matter. I think the only time it would seriously matter if longevity of life was now a factor. 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ve gained 35 pounds in the last year. I’m not telling. He knows I’ve gained weight but doesn’t know the numbers. 

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Yes, because the number on the scale doesn’t define me. 

I’ve struggled with my weight a lot in my life. I am finally in a place that I feel good about my body. That’s all that matters to him. That I am happy. Not some number. So we talk about it, we find ways to ensure we are both healthy. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Fiance doesn’t know my weight but neither do I! I’m in recovery from an eating disorder so he just wants me to be healthy. I’ve been in the process of gaining and so he is seeing me get “bigger” and he loves it 🙂 Truth be told I never want to know my own weight, but I don’t think I would mind at all if Fiance knew.

Post # 40
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Helper bee

Nope. I’m self conscious about it. He doesn’t like me feeling that way but my weight has always been a delicate thing for me. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee

Yep. Especially since I started exercising this year and gained 8lbs but went from a size 6 to a size 2 pant size. The scale really just shows a number.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

I don’t mind sharing my weight. I sometimes weigh myself and let him know if I am a few pounds heavier. Weight fluctuates throughout the day. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee

Yes. I have pretty much been the same weight since puberty, give or take a few pounds. I used to be self conscious when I was younger because I thought I weighed a lot compared to my friends BUT I’m 5’9″ so obviously I’m going to weigh more than someone 4 inches shorter than me! I’m comfortable with it now and our weight is something my SO and myself have always shared with each other. Your hubby obviously knows your body and loves it, so I don’t think him knowing the number on the scale is going to make him feel any differently 😊.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Yes! I tell him how much I weigh all the time!

We go to the gym and go through calorie surplus and calorie deficit stages based on whether we are trying to gain muscle or lose fat, so weight is part of how we track how we are going and I’m always sharing where I’m at.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

I don’t know if he knows to the exact pound at any given moment, but yeah he has a general idea. And I do NOT understand keeping it a secret. Why does the number matter if he’s seeing all of you. 

This reminds me of a fight my parents had when I was in high school. My dad is a short guy who lies about his height and my mom said, “I never would have married you if I knew how tall you really were!” To which my dad responded, “I WAS STANDING RIGHT THERE!!”

Doesn’t matter how it’s quantified… 5’6″ or 5’8″, 120lbs or 210lbs… you’re standing right there. The number doesn’t matter. 

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