Does DH/SO know your weight?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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Buzzing bee

The NUMBER MEANS NOTHING. If you’re working through fertility care, HIS FOCUS needs to be on your mutual efforts to conceive and have a beautiful healthy child.

I apologize in advance if this has been addressed in other answers, but It lights me up if I think women are worrying about “the number” because of concern about what their SO thinks. THE NUMBER is SO unimportant. I lost weight before I tried to conceive, but couldn’t carry a pregnancy to term until I regained some of the weight I’d lost. 

Hope everything works out PERFECTLY for you, OP.

Post # 77
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482 posts
Helper bee

Yeah, he knows, but it’s like not something that comes up often. I honestly don’t like to weigh myself and would rather use clothes as my judgement. As you know, muscle weighs more than fat.. so if you are regularly going to the gym you may see the numbers jump rather than decline, but if the pants are getting looser then that’s a good sign !

Post # 78
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Bumble bee

Yes he does.  Just like I know how much he weighs.

Post # 79
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1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

He doesn’t know what I weigh and I don’t know what he weighs, but I wouldn’t care if he knew. I barely know what I weigh…

Post # 80
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3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

MrsWolfaith :  Nope, Darling Husband doesn’t know my weight.  I’m a muscular size 4/6 so I look smaller than I am weightwise.  Whenever he has to fill things out for me he puts 120 pounds (which is WAY off).  I know his weight though because he shares it freely with me.  If he asked, I would tell him, but I really don’t think he cares.

Post # 81
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Hell to the nah nah.

Post # 82
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275 posts
Helper bee

He knows the general number. Sometimes he remembers what size pants I wear. Sometimes he remembers shirt size. 

Post # 83
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671 posts
Busy bee

Yeah, because he literally sees me all the time in any and every state of undress. I’ve never considered it a secret. Really, the first time it came up was when I passed him my ID when we were first dating and he said “wow, you weigh that much?”

I burst out laughing (and this is someone who formerly had an eating disorder), because he immediately looked horrified that he said it out loud. He followed it with “I just assumed you were like, 90 pounds” – not since middle school, sweetheart. 

To be fair, though, I don’t know how much he weighs except for a very rough ballpark estimate. I think he cares more than I do in that regard. 

Post # 84
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I usually weigh around the same as my SO(we are the same height too), though I don’t think he knows it. I really think he just assumes I weigh much less than I actually do because I am a girl haha. It really really bothers me though that we are so close in weight.

One time when filling out a rental form for skiis, I had to answer that question out loud, and i panicked! I said a number that was a bit less than I actually am, and then immediatly wished I had lied better, but he didn’t bat an eye at all. He doesn’t care, but I care so much. Now I have been loosing a little bit of weight and he has gained a bit so there is probably a 20ish lb separation which makes me feel better, but I would still never tell him or let him know on purpose how much I weigh. Way too insecure about that.

Post # 85
Hostess
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Yes, because I am perpetually trying to lose a few pounds, so when I am down a pound or two I yell it out for all the world to hear 😉 Darling Husband has lost like 40 pounds since we moved in together and hasn’t even done ANYTHING besides changing his diet to what I eat instead of what we call Bachelor Chow. Makes me crazy how it has just fallen off of him! But I’m proud of him too! 

Post # 86
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Bumble bee

He has an idea of what I weigh. He’s usually off by 5lbs (he estimates on the low side which is ok by me). 

Post # 87
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Buzzing bee

I’m petite and slim, and it’s never occurred to me that I should need to hide my weight. I don’t go around talking about it, so I doubt my SO knows a number off the top of his head/would remember, but he’s definitely seen things with my weight on them (like my driver’s license or summaries of doctor’s appointments that I’ve left laying around). Same for him – I don’t know a # off the top of my head, but I could guess within a ten pound range. Also, weight alone seems pretty meaningless to me, since it’s going to look so different on different people – IMO if your partner thinks you’re sexy that will not change because of a number on scale. I think letting someone see you naked is 1000x more intimate than sharing your weight. 

Post # 88
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Buzzing bee

Uh, yeah- we know each others weight. It isn’t a big deal to us, it’s just a number. Last night we were comparing stretch marks on our asses so maybe we are just weird, IDK.

Post # 89
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Bumble bee

He knows it about as accurately as I do. I don’t weigh myself often and only have a general idea of what I weigh, but when it’s come up I just tell him. I am 6 inches shorter than him and still weight about 10-15 lbs more than him, but have never felt embarrassed about it because he still finds me sexy and has seen me naked at this weight. Knowing my weight won’t make me all of a sudden look different.

Post # 90
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

MrsWolfaith :  I probably weigh 148 and I would not tell my husband about it. I think he thinks I weigh 10 pounds less and I do and I do not correct him. I probably wear a size 8/10 and im about 5’5. I think weight is a tough topic. I think I would be a little embarassed if he knew how much I weighed but I do not know why I feel this way. I feel like if my friend weighed my weight I would say not to worry about it so I dont know why I do. I feel for you on this one but I think it shouldnt matter. However,  I do think I feel the same way. I do not like people knowing alll my sizes/ weight. It makes me feel bad for not being a size 4/6 anymore and not weighing 130. It is hard.

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