- Mr. Bee
- 8 years ago
Do you think it actually works? And if so, why do you think it works?
I have my own theory, but thought I’d check with you all first!
Do you think it actually works? And if so, why do you think it works?
I have my own theory, but thought I’d check with you all first!
The only engagement chicken I know of is a fantastic recipe by Ina Garten. Can someone explain what engagement chicken is? π
It is a critical tool for ladies in waiting!
http://www.glamour.com/weddings/blogs/save-the-date/2009/07/how-far-would-you-go-to-get-en.html
I never made engagement chicken, although at one point I seriously considered it. He had asked my parents about 8 months before he asked me, and I knew it. I was desperate.
I made engagement chicken last november and was engaged the next february.
So….technically, it worked for me π
I think the article makes women look crazy. If you’re incapable of saying “we’ve been together seven years- how about we get married this year..” you have no buisness being engaged. Now.. If he starts ho humming perhaps its time to move on (not play chicken).
I prefer Ina’s version. π
As an aside, my husband took awhile to ask for the second time- but when I approached him with “Hey.. we’ve been together three years, live together, have combined finances.. what do you think.” it happened (The first time he proposed after we had been dating four months and I said he was crazy and thought it was a joke- I still feel bad)
@maureen9004: Its just something fun to cook and share with your man. For me it was fun watching him gobble it up and in my mind I was like “yes, yes, eat up. muahahaha” Of course, I didnt really think “ohhh hes under my spell now” lol
@HoneyBear: lol.. are we talking about the recipe or the game?
@HoneyBear – Hahaha +1 for “yes, yes, eat up. muahahaha”!!!
I think engagement chicken can create a sense of control over something where it’s often possible to feel out of control… i.e.
Nevermind.. I am so confused. Before reading the article I googled it and found something else about playing chicken with the engagement (i.e. threatening to leave the relationship)
If you’re actually preparing an engagement chicken I think it will work! I mean, if I were a man a women cooked for me- I’d want to put a ring on it.
I don’t buy it one bit.
I think that the majority of women who make engagement chicken are in relationships where engagement is the rational next step. Long term, serious relationships. They make the chicken and then, some degree of time afterwards, he proposes. It could be a month or a year. That doesn’t mean that that the chicken “worked,” it just means that they are both on the same page for the future of their relationship.
I tried it, 3 weeks later he proposed, of course by then I had actually forgotten all about the chicken π
I’m honestly not convinced it was the chicken that did it since I cook for him a lot and I had cooked Thanksgiving (including a turkey) for 4 years in a row at that point.
Mr. Bee, why do you think it works? I think I would tend to agree with Miss Sloth.
I’m going to go with I don’t think it’s the cause for engagments, but it certainly helps? I really like the recipie and it’s fairly easy, and it’s super yummy! I make it whenever I’m in the mood to do something extra nice for him. I’m not a chef by any means and my Fiance was very impressed when I made it the first time.
For some people that feel they’ve lost control over the waiting process, cooking an engagement chicken can restore that sense of control temporarily.
I think that can have a big impact on a relationship… it seems silly, but I can relate to that. When I’ve been utterly miserable at work, I’ve found that if I can control some small part of my day-to-day work… I can recover my sanity (sometimes!).