(Closed) Does everyone become depressed after having a baby?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Did you have the newborn blues?



  • Post # 2
    824 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I did not experience this. The home nurse who came to visit (I had a C-section) asked questions and I had almost no score, meaning the lower you score the less trace of any post partum depression. I am pregnant again and hope it is the same with this one! Then again I expect to be too busy to have time to be depressed, though I know it is not something we can necessarily control though.

    Post # 3
    47383 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    ExpectingBee:  No, not all new Moms suffer from post partum depression.

    There is  a big difference between the “baby blues”  and “post partum depression”.

    Baby blues

    The vast majority of new mothers experience at least some symptoms of the baby blues, including moodiness, sadness, difficulty sleeping, irritability, appetite changes, concentration problems. Symptoms of the baby blues typically show up within a few days of giving birth and last from several days to a couple of weeks.

    The baby blues are a normal part of new motherhood—probably caused by the hormonal changes that occur following birth. If you have them, there is no cause for undue worry. You’ll feel better once your hormones level out. Aside from the support of your loved ones and plenty of rest, no treatment is necessary.

    Post Partum depression

    In the beginning, postpartum depression can look like the normal baby blues. In fact, postpartum depression and the baby blues share many symptoms, including mood swings, crying jags, sadness, insomnia, and irritability. The difference is that with postpartum depression, the symptoms are more severe (such as suicidal thoughts or an inability to care for your newborn) and longer lasting.
    Signs and Symptoms of Postpartum Depression

    Lack of interest in your baby
    Negative feelings towards your baby
    Worrying about hurting your baby
    Lack of concern for yourself
    Loss of pleasure


    Lack of energy and motivation
    Feelings of worthlessness and guilt
    Changes in appetite or weight
    Sleeping more or less than usual
    Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide

    Postpartum depression usually sets in soon after childbirth and develops gradually over a period of several months. But it can also come on suddenly, and in some women, the first signs don’t appear until months after they’ve given birth.

    Post Partum psychosis– rare

    Postpartum psychosis is a rare, but extremely serious disorder that can develop after childbirth, characterized by loss of contact with reality. Postpartum psychosis should be considered a medical emergency. Because of the high risk for suicide or infanticide, hospitalization is usually required to keep the mother and the baby safe.

    Postpartum psychosis develops suddenly, usually within the first two weeks after delivery, and sometimes within 48 hours. Symptoms include:

    Hallucinations (seeing things that aren’t real or hearing voices)
    Delusions (paranoid and irrational beliefs)
    Extreme agitation and anxiety
    Suicidal thoughts or actions
    Confusion and disorientation


    Rapid mood swings
    Bizarre behavior
    Inability or refusal to eat or sleep
    Thoughts of harming or killing your baby

    Post # 4
    536 posts
    Busy bee

    I cant speak for myself (yet), but most of the women in my family did Have significant post patrum depression. I’m going to TTC soon, and have decided to have an after-birth plan that will work in the event that I *do* get PPD. That way, I can hopefully head of the worst of it.

    For example, we will hire a “night nanny” babysitter for the first few weeks to basically feed baby during the night every two hours (She can sleep or do other stuff inbetween, so it will be a cushy job for a night owl). That way, I am rested and able to care for the infant during the day hours. I will also have a plan to pump milk if possible during the pregancy, so that baby can get breast milk if I need to go back on antideprssants. (I have a history of depression that only responds to MAOI drugs– and these are not ok for breastfeeding!)

    I figure it’s best to hope for the best but plan for the worst. That way, I shouldnt be caught unprepared.

    Post # 5
    9806 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I had the baby blues for about a week or two but not PPD.  So no, not everyone becomes depressed but baby blues are extremely common.  I wasn’t really irritable or couldn’t sleep, just weepy.

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    Shrink-E-Dink:  You can’t pump breastmilk while pregnant FYI.  Breastmilk cannot come in until after the placenta is delivered.  You can express colostrum before birth but that is not sustainable food for an infant past the first 2-5 days.  If you really want to breastfeed I would not recommend sleeping through the night without feeding baby or pumping- you will never get a good supply established without pumping/feeding 10-12x a day those first 6 weeks.  And prolactin levels are highest overnight- so most people get the most milk during overnight and early morning hours.  Just something I noticed that you may want to think about!  If anything, I would get a night nanny or post partum doula to come at 7-8am and watch baby in the morning while you slept.  With the doula just bringing baby to you to feed.

    Post # 6
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    My baby is only 3 weeks old, but so far I feel great emotionally. I have never been happier, even though I am bery tired.

    Post # 7
    7426 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I had the baby blues for about 2 weeks, but I didn’t have PPD. I answered yes to the poll since it asked about baby blues.

    Post # 8
    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had baby blues, don’t remember how long though. I had a c-section, so I couldn’t go anywhere without help, so I was stuck at home for the majority of 6 weeks. Plus it was so cold, I didn’t want dd out in the cold if it wasn’t nessesary. Once I was able to lift and do things, I felt a lot better since I was able to get out once in a while. 

    Post # 9
    7955 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have two kids. I had PPD with the first child, but not the second.

    Post # 10
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I had the baby blues something awful for about two weeks – i just couldn’t stop crying.  I cried because i loved him so much – i cried about everything and the worst part is you know you are being irrational but can’t help it.  After I started feeling better and more like myself it definitely subsided by about 6 weeks I was pretty much back to normal.

    Post # 11
    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I had PPD with my first, but it wasn’t nessesarily “dark.” I was/am madly in love with my son and I became like freakishly protective of him. I used to get nightmares all the time about bad things happening, and I got anxiety attacks dropping him off at my FMILs so I could go to work. I cried when I was away from him, but not when I was with him. When I was cuddled up with that little guy I was the happiest person in the world, it was being away from him that would send me to crazy land. I was briefly medicated  from the time he was 10-12 months old and I quit my job and have stayed home for the past 10 months. Staying home was the best thing that I did and worked wonders for my sanity. I think that because I’m not “forced” to drop him off or be away from him and that its a choice I make when I drop him off at my moms or MILs makes it okay. We are putting him in daycare in the fall and I’m okay with that now. My fingers are crossed I make it through #2 without getting nutty again. 

    Post # 12
    8943 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    ExpectingBee:  No. I was very worried about PPD because I had been suffering from depression for a few years and was on medication for it when I got pregnant. It was unexpected and I wasn’t married. In fact, we were technically broken up at the time. So with the circumstances plus going off medication plus a long family history of depression and other mental illness, I figured there was no way I would escape it. But I did! I was fine. I mean, the sleep deprivation sucked ass and made me a little ornery sometimes, but for the most part I felt great. I felt normal and happy. Not manic or like “supermom” or anything. Just normal and peaceful. In fact, it was 5 years and another baby later before I needed to go back on the antidepressant. (It was triggered by a situation, nothing to do with the baby.)

    I honestly think a lot of PPD might be lack of sleep. That was hands down the hardest part for me. It makes you feel zoned out, disconnected, robotic even. And very irritable. My husband was able to take a lot of time off work and was a very active involved dad so I think it wasn’t as bad for me as for some new moms, but I still felt it. Not to downplay hormones etc, but I would be very interested in a study to see if a few 8 hour nights of uninterrupted sleep help alleviate PPD. Regardless, it’s good that you’re aware of the possibility and prepared. I think you’ll probably be fine though — best wishes!!

    Post # 13
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    While my situation was a little different/traumatic, I did experience some baby blues, but not what I would call PP depression.

    Post # 14
    2251 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Obgyn nurse here.  I can say that in the particular population of people i work with true postpartum  depression is not very common.  I’m not talking about baby blues here, only the real PPD. roughly 5 to 7% of women have the real disease that can last more than a year long and needs to be treated with antidepressants.  People who had psych issues before pregnancy are more likely to have PPD, but of course there are exceptions. Baby blues are common and normal they go away quickly.  Manny people think they have PPD but it’s just baby blues. If you think you have PPD, better check with your obgyn to make a correct diagnosis and get help if  truly needed

    Post # 15
    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I had pretty severe PPD with my son. It was way more tha baby blues. I didn’t want to be anywhere near him, didn’t want to hold him or change his diaper or snuggle with him. If anyone walked through the door, I jumped at the opportunity to pass him t them so I could do something else. It was really, really bad. I cried a lot for no reason, didn’t know why I felt NO connection to this baby. I had a C-Section and felt almost immediately like I wasn’t attached to him like I should be.

    In the hospital I struggled with BF’ing and had many nurses tell me different ways to try things and they all just frustrated me. I switched to formula and that saddened me, as I really wanted to Boyfriend or Best Friend. I felt like a failure from the get go with failed labour, failed breastfeeding and really, failed mothering from moment 1.

    My midwives were the ones who caught it early on and they watched me pretty closely, and recommended a few ways to help. It did get better, but I would say I was at least 3-4 months in before I felt anywhere NEAR “normal” again. Out of my 5 “mom friends” that all had babies at the same time as my son, I was the only one who felt this way. So, no, not everyone goes through it but I think its extremely beneficial for everyone to educate themselves on what it is, so if they do experience it, they can ask for help.

    It’s hard – very, very hard… but…  so worth it in the end.

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