(Closed) Does everyone consider eloping at some point in planning?

posted 9 years ago in Elopement
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh man, I talk/think about “eloping” (or just going to city hall) All.The.Time.

Getting married here costs an arm and a leg (seriously, just for a license it is 350$, just for a JoP is another 350$, if you do it on a weekday in chambers–which you have to–tack on another 50$. If you want it on a weekend, at a different location within the municipality tack on another 150$, so over all, for a cut and dry, saturday thang, 800$ plus tax).

And that is only the tip of the iceberg.

I think the stress of meeting other peoples expectations, staying in budget, and doing what we want (without being wasteful, gratuitous, “tacky”, etc, etc) is mainly what drives me to think about eloping. Sometimes it seems like the grass is greener, but partly we want the support of our “community” as well.

Post # 18
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2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh and WIC.

WIC makes me want to vomit/run away screaming.

Post # 19
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Yes, it happened to me multiple times. My husband and I talked seriously about it nearly every day. The only difference from most here though, is that I wish now that we would have eloped and just had a reception later. I know I wouldn’t have regretted it. I loved the reception a lot more than the ceremony.

Post # 20
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1254 posts
Bumble bee

Everytime I get frustrated or stressed out about the amount of dough we are spending for the wedding I fantasize about eloping. Then I hop on to WeddingBee and see that I am not alone. I also see all the great decor ideas, beautiful dresses, cool shoes, etc. and I get sucked back in…haha!

I think it is common for brides to think about eloping. It is a good escape for what ifs. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 21
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes. We’ve been engaged a year and still can’t get the money together for a wedding while still being able to be financially stable…we are eloping ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
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14963 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@joeswaffle… i hear you on the difficulty finding a venue!  i’m in the boston area, and TRYING to stay on some kind of loose budget.  i’ve just started down my list of reasonable priced and worked my way up.  they’ve all been so disappointing.  i’m now at the point of … omg, i’m going to spend *WHAAAAAT* on this wedding?!?!  AHHHHH, eloping looks better and better each day.

Post # 23
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7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

YES. If I ever (knock on wood) have this to do again…. I’m going to Vegas. Screw planning another wedding.

Post # 24
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5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes, I say it often, but I feel like we are so close to the wedding so we might as well wait it out.

Post # 25
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1020 posts
Bumble bee

i definitely have! especially when looking at the amount of $$ i’ll have to spend on the wedding….. but then, i want to share the moment with family and close friends, plus, this is very lame and shallow, but i didn’t want to spend $$$$$ on my dress when only my FH gets to see ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 26
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529 posts
Busy bee

OMG YES! ALL THE TIME! My Fiance keeps saying “non refundable deposits” to rein me in!

Post # 27
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58 posts
Worker bee

YES. I think about it many times a week. I haven’t spent any ‘big bucks’ yet and am SO tempted to elope. I would love to have a big affair with everyone I love surrounding us – but the money just is NOT there. THe pressure to do something to appease both families and also have the elements we want so badly is huge. Everytime a vendor replies to my inquiring emails, my heart sinks about how much this stuff costs. I can’t stop thinking about saving the money towards securing a future home for us. I hate the thought of a wedding actually pushing us back in reality.

Blah :/ I am relieved to hear that many other brides on weddingbee feel somewhat similar though. Thanks y’all ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 28
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yes!!! Totally! I have thought about running off to Vegas MANY times. All I really want is to wear a pretty dress, and marry the love of my life. I could do that anywhere, anytime, with lots of people around, or no people around.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

we totally did think about it and I LOVE and have always loved weddings. Sometimes it’s nice to think about because for me it made me re-consider all the reasons we wanted the wedding. In the end it was 1000% worth it to have our perfect wedding, and if I had to do it all over knowing what i do now, I would stress less about the weather and thats about it!

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